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How Do We Keep Our Kids Safe In A Scary World?

Posted by on Sep. 30, 2013 at 10:19 AM
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With 24-hour news channels making sure we know about every kidnapping and random act of violence committed, it's hard to know where paranoia takes over for rational fear. Mary Ann Zoellner, Mom and Author of "Sh*tty Mom," is here to talk about how we can remain vigilant protectors who still let their kids go outside alone now and then.

How Do We Keep Our Kids Safe In a Scary World?

by on Sep. 30, 2013 at 10:19 AM
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SarahSuzyQ
by Silver Member on Sep. 30, 2013 at 1:20 PM
This is such a struggle for me... Especially starting my son in K this year, there are days when I have a lot of anxiety about his safety. I know it's irrational, but that news media coverage can really get to a person! For me I think it's about helping my son be prepared for bad situations, but then trying to expect the best to happen rather than living in fear of the worst.
wandep
by Gold Member on Sep. 30, 2013 at 1:25 PM

We don't like to watch the news all the time in our household just the fact that it is mostly bad stuff going on...makes you depressed. If the kids ask us about things that they have heard we will talk about it. 

Mom2jngnc
by Gold Member on Sep. 30, 2013 at 1:27 PM

I am in the minority. 
It is not something that concerns me.

My sons ride their bikes around the block, they bike to the fire house, to friends houses, they walk to school. They play in our partially fenced in back yard, usually with the black lab.

We know most of our neighbors, we are involved in our community. We have extra sets of eyes watching them. We have gotten phone calls "John, 2 of your boys are running down main st." Which was "yup, passing you now, they are trying to race Steph and I over to their Aunt's house."

I still interrogate them!
They only  get into cars with people I approve!

mjimaging
by Member on Sep. 30, 2013 at 1:33 PM
I do worry sometimes. My oldest used to have a long walk home from school on a hwy but she gets to bus now. I don't like my son playing outside alone but he does occasionally in the back yard. We don't really watch the news. We get a lot of our social media online. Which there is definitely some ba stuff portrayed there. We just try to teach them safety a responsibility and hope for the best.
Miranda1127
by Silver Member on Sep. 30, 2013 at 2:06 PM

 The same way my parents kept me safe. I make sure the kids know where they live, know how to spot everyday danger, how to ask for help, have access to a phone (and know who to call/how to use it), and are capable of basic self defense (and when to apply it).

Tigress22304
by on Sep. 30, 2013 at 6:43 PM


Quoting wandep:

We don't like to watch the news all the time in our household just the fact that it is mostly bad stuff going on...makes you depressed. If the kids ask us about things that they have heard we will talk about it. 

same here. doesnt help we had a girl murdered in our hometown just last year-in Dh's old house!!

luckily 2 of the kids dont care if they're stuck inside or in the yard under supervision-sd12 cant stand it but she deals


craftybookworm
by on Oct. 1, 2013 at 4:01 AM
I'm also in minority. I think with the surge in media and social networking, there's an emphasis on the bad and it can be slightly slanted. My kids know the basics. Don't talk to strangers, don't take candy from strangers, never get in the car with a stranger. Yes, I don't let them run around the neighborhood without me watching them, but they're 5. My teenager has more lee-way and he knows there's check in times, tell me where you're going, who you're with etc. I think the key to all this is to relax but use common sense. If we freake out all the time, we'd all be needing some antianxiety meds. yeah, the world is a scary, sucky place at times, but it doesn't mean you have to live under a rock hiding.
ScrChk23
by on Oct. 1, 2013 at 5:17 AM
Teach them about the possible dangers, but not in a manner in which they become paranoid about everything.
KellyFlavis
by on Oct. 1, 2013 at 7:30 AM
instead of trying to keep them "safe" from reality, talk to your children, prepare them for life, make sure they know how to stay safe and what to do if they feel unsafe. And then watch them take a step into their futures.
elasmimi
by on Oct. 1, 2013 at 1:10 PM

I wish I lived in a community like this.

Quoting Mom2jngnc:

I am in the minority. 
It is not something that concerns me.

My sons ride their bikes around the block, they bike to the fire house, to friends houses, they walk to school. They play in our partially fenced in back yard, usually with the black lab.

We know most of our neighbors, we are involved in our community. We have extra sets of eyes watching them. We have gotten phone calls "John, 2 of your boys are running down main st." Which was "yup, passing you now, they are trying to race Steph and I over to their Aunt's house."

I still interrogate them!
They only  get into cars with people I approve!


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