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What did you do on YOUR wedding night?

Posted by on Oct. 11, 2013 at 9:10 AM
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What Most Couples Do on Their Wedding Night Is a Real Shocker

posted by Maressa Brown



honeymoon suite rose petals bedFinally! Fiiiiinally! Someone has set the record straight and leveled with all of those brides out there who think their wedding night is going to deliver The Most Magical Romantic Earth-Shattering Fireworks-Lighting Stellar Kickass Sex of Their LIVES. Or even that they'll end up consummating the marriage on that night to begin with! According to a a poll of 2,138 people who were married in the past three years, more than half of couples skip the sex altogether on their wedding night. Ha!

And as if that wasn't smirk-worthy enough, get this ...

Of the couples who didn't get it on on their wedding night, 24 percent confessed it was because the groom was too drunk! Oof. Well, that should reassure a lot of brides who thought they were the only ones stuck with an annoyingly liquored up new hubby, huh? Meanwhile, 16 percent said they passed because the bride was too tired and fell asleep, and for 13 percent, it was because the bride was too drunk. 4 percent of couples say the groom fell asleep. Wow.

Also kind of jaw-droppingly interesting ... 17 percent of respondents waited for more than three days after the ceremony! Guess they had to wait for family members to stop swarming and pack their bags or they had to head out on their honeymoon to score some privacy? Or maybe they just had to wind down from all the brouhaha in order to get in the mood!

Granted, the poll was commissioned by a less than scientific organization: Voucher Codes Pro. But still, I buy the results. And beyond that, I'm grateful for the results. Most people I know fall into this "more than half" group, and there's no shame. I only wish that this was what we talked about more often, instead of perpetuating the harmful myth that after what is likely to the most stressful and/or incredibly emotional day of your life up to that point, the bed's gonna be rockin' harder than ever. Pfft! There's absolutely no need for ridiculous expectations and to put so much pressure on ourselves and our new spouses. Because let's be real. The honeymoon's where it's at!

What do you make of this poll? Do you wish we'd be a bit more realistic and honest with one another about wedding night sex?

by on Oct. 11, 2013 at 9:10 AM
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othermom
by Gold Member on Oct. 11, 2013 at 9:16 AM
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We went home and made dinner for the kids

goddess99
by Silver Member on Oct. 11, 2013 at 9:25 AM
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We had an amazing suite and I covered the bed in rose pedals and we did the deed lol *blush. It was perfect. But we also basically eloped, we didn't have guests or company until 11pm or midnight. We didn't want to be bothered with people, we wanted it to be romantic and just about us and it was.

elasmimi
by on Oct. 11, 2013 at 9:38 AM
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My wedding night was pretty great, maybe beause we don't drink, lol.

So_Devious20
by Member on Oct. 11, 2013 at 9:53 AM
We weren't drunk. But oh man were we exhausted. It was the busiest and longest day of my life. Lol. I was so anxious and there was so much to do.
After? We went to my Aunts to make an appearance. I kept my dress on until Dh removed it.
We were tired but we still made sure it happened at least once. Lol
MistressMinerva
by Silver Member on Oct. 11, 2013 at 10:06 AM

We had family members come from out of state so we didn't get to do anything until we left for the Honeymoon.

slw123
by on Oct. 11, 2013 at 11:39 AM

We were so tired!   And hungry!  Unbelievably we didn't get to eat at our own wedding because my best friends rude ass date went up and started helping himself as the buffett was being set up, which prompted other people to go up, which prompted everyone to go up even though dinner hadn't been announced.  We were still in a receiving line!  By the time we got to the buffett, almost everything was gone.

So at midnight, we changed our clothes and went to Perkins for dinner.  It was an exhausting day.

la_bella_vita
by Gold Member on Oct. 11, 2013 at 11:43 AM

 DH drank more then normal and I didn't drink at all. We also had an early wedding. We did it multiple times ; ) and woke up it did multiple times that morning...LOL

And then we had a fun honeymoon ; )

mnmo3bb
by Bronze Member on Oct. 11, 2013 at 11:49 AM
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 Well, I'm sure since no one waits anymore, there is nothing special about it... we babysat my nephew for a while and after pulling about 500 bobby pins did enjoy our wedding night :)

CandM_Momster
by on Oct. 11, 2013 at 11:51 AM

I had just given birth to my son 9 days before our wedding day.  So, after the ceremony and a few hours at the reception, I left with our son to go to sleep and DH stayed behind to entertain our guests, lol.

lilmoosesmom
by on Oct. 11, 2013 at 11:58 AM

We had a very LOW key wedding. Little stress. In fact we didn't plan a honeymoon or anything. So my dad paid for a beautiful hotel room for the night. And watched our son. 


We visited a few friends (no one was at the wedding but family, and my best friend) went to see a movie, (It was one of the POTC movies) Went back to the Hotel and enjoyed each other, :) 

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