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What did you do on YOUR wedding night?

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What Most Couples Do on Their Wedding Night Is a Real Shocker

posted by Maressa Brown

honeymoon suite rose petals bedFinally! Fiiiiinally! Someone has set the record straight and leveled with all of those brides out there who think their wedding night is going to deliver The Most Magical Romantic Earth-Shattering Fireworks-Lighting Stellar Kickass Sex of Their LIVES. Or even that they'll end up consummating the marriage on that night to begin with! According to a a poll of 2,138 people who were married in the past three years, more than half of couples skip the sex altogether on their wedding night. Ha!

And as if that wasn't smirk-worthy enough, get this ...

Of the couples who didn't get it on on their wedding night, 24 percent confessed it was because the groom was too drunk! Oof. Well, that should reassure a lot of brides who thought they were the only ones stuck with an annoyingly liquored up new hubby, huh? Meanwhile, 16 percent said they passed because the bride was too tired and fell asleep, and for 13 percent, it was because the bride was too drunk. 4 percent of couples say the groom fell asleep. Wow.

Also kind of jaw-droppingly interesting ... 17 percent of respondents waited for more than three days after the ceremony! Guess they had to wait for family members to stop swarming and pack their bags or they had to head out on their honeymoon to score some privacy? Or maybe they just had to wind down from all the brouhaha in order to get in the mood!

Granted, the poll was commissioned by a less than scientific organization: Voucher Codes Pro. But still, I buy the results. And beyond that, I'm grateful for the results. Most people I know fall into this "more than half" group, and there's no shame. I only wish that this was what we talked about more often, instead of perpetuating the harmful myth that after what is likely to the most stressful and/or incredibly emotional day of your life up to that point, the bed's gonna be rockin' harder than ever. Pfft! There's absolutely no need for ridiculous expectations and to put so much pressure on ourselves and our new spouses. Because let's be real. The honeymoon's where it's at!

What do you make of this poll? Do you wish we'd be a bit more realistic and honest with one another about wedding night sex?

by on Oct. 11, 2013 at 9:10 AM
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by on Oct. 17, 2013 at 10:31 AM
We walked in to our hotel room with our MOH and her boyfriend gather her clothes off our hotel room floor. I was a little sad I didn't get the Rose petals on the bed and champagne but it's funny now. We did have the sex, but it was so half assed. After we ate and watched TV. Tip to ALL brides, if you can get the venue to pack you a to go bag(they all say it's against the rules, but just try and see if they can bend them one time) of food from your reception, you will be sooo happy. I was starving when we got back to the room, and grateful my wedding planner was able to snag us tons of snacks from the cocktail and late night snack hours at hours.. No one tells you that you won't have time to nosh on the big day!
by Gold Member on Nov. 2, 2013 at 10:22 PM
We did on our wedding night, but we also left our reception fairly early. My folks and his sister made sure that we were able to escape and head to town to the hotel room my folks had arranged as a wedding present. And, we waited till we were married, so it was something we'd been pretty excited about!
by Platinum Member on Nov. 3, 2013 at 1:25 AM

We'd been living together for almost 18mo. We sat up nearly all night talking, looking at the ocean outside our hotel room and cuddling... it was lovely and far more romantic than any pile of dead flowers anywhere.

by Bronze Member on Nov. 3, 2013 at 7:20 AM
We were so tired after our wedding
by Anonymous 31 on Nov. 3, 2013 at 7:21 AM
We did it it wasn't the best we were exhausted
by Member on Nov. 3, 2013 at 7:23 AM

We had sex before the reception was over.

by Silver Member on Nov. 6, 2013 at 8:55 AM

 I swear to you this is a true story! We got married in the Bahamas and stayed there 4 days before we got married. It was November so I took advantage of the sun and layed out all day the day before so I would look super tan and awesome in pictures. Wellllllllll.........that didn't quite work out.

I got sun poisoning and was in such pain our wedding night that we spent it with him applying aloe to my!

And the pictures?? Well I look like a lobster in a white dresssurprise mini

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