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When teens get pregnant, who is to blame?

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just honest opinions. would you blame the guy, the girl, the parents, the media, etc. just please only serious answers and give reasons. thanks soooo much.

Posted by Anonymous on Aug. 15, 2014 at 11:53 AM
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by Brandy on Aug. 15, 2014 at 11:58 AM
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It really depends on the situation but I'd say in general it's everyone's fault. The girl, the guy, both their parents, society.....

Rather then place blame, I'd rather just focus on the future. Playing the blame game helps no one.
by Gold Member on Aug. 15, 2014 at 12:01 PM
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It depends on what happened. Were the kids irresponsible? Drunk? Uneducated? Unloved? Exposed to media they shouldn't have been? Abused?
There are just way too many factors to assume a blanket cause.
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by Gold Member on Aug. 15, 2014 at 12:03 PM
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The teens who were at it?

It's hard to blame anyone but the participants... although ignorance certainly does nothing at all to curb the teen pregnancy rate, I feel that problem goes a lot deeper than merely sex ed:

When we lie to children about the purpose and function of their bodies --from telling them they're not hungry because the clock says so, to they are tired because the clock says so, and they must sit still because the school says so, and they didn't make a bad smell because etiquette says so, to the blurred-out, censored or simply omitted parts of their bodies in virtually every 'body' book aimed at children under 16, all we're really saying is 'that part of your life is secret, dangerous, unreal or not open for language --or the kinds of thoughts that require language to think, like active and intelligent decision making regarding, oooh, everything.

Food choices.

Food volume.

When to go to bed.

What to do with how those parts feel.

What to do about physiological attraction.

How to cope with powerful (never referred to) feelings, like fury and lust and depression and grief.

What to do with agitation in school when sitting is the only option available.

What to do with fatigue when continuing to produce is the only option available.

We have made bodies something that a huge proportion of people are barely aware of, mostly from an 'over there' perspective... 

Add to that the sexualization of skin, breasts, lips, hair, hands, shoulders, legs, buttocks, bellies ... in images that are everywhere... 

Let's all pretend we're surprised when teens thoughtlessly do what their bodies seem to be in control of...

by Bronze Member on Aug. 15, 2014 at 1:43 PM
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Why place blame? What's done is done. As already mentioned, focus on the future.
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by on Aug. 15, 2014 at 2:03 PM
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The two people that bumped uglies are to blame.

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by Platinum Member on Aug. 15, 2014 at 8:35 PM

No reason to place blame after the fact :)

by Platinum Member on Aug. 15, 2014 at 9:06 PM
Never really thought about it.
by Member on Aug. 15, 2014 at 9:07 PM
the girl,boy ..if she is thats she is grown and can have sex than she is at fault.
by Platinum Member on Aug. 15, 2014 at 10:32 PM
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The teens who were involved.

I got pregnant at 19. I know its not considered "teen" by some people since I was living on my own and all...but still, I was 19.

No one was to blame but me and my now dh. The media did not influence me. Yes, my parents taught me better, but Im a person with a mind of my own. I made the choice, we were a little under the influence and didnt use proper protection, and were the only ones to blame.

by Platinum Member on Aug. 16, 2014 at 6:53 AM
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I think there are a lot of factors that contribute but I don't think any one is to blame, depending on the situation. I was a teen mom and I took full responsibility for my daughter from day 1. The situation wasn't ideal and I don't promote teen parenthood in any way but my daughter was my life from the second she was born. I don't consider her existence to be a mistake or something to be ashamed of so I don't see why I'd blame anybody else for her conception.
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