New Tiger Den Leader Needing advice *Long, Sorry!*
My son is a brand new Tiger scout and I volunteered to be the den leader. I figured there would be some training involved and I would have guidance from more experienced den leaders when I volunteered. We submitted our applications in June of this year. I was not contacted until the end of August, one week prior to our kick off picnic. At that point I was told I need to complete the Youth Protection Training, which I did within a week after. I was told when our first meeting would be and that was it. I had no idea what to expect. I had to call the CM to ask what I needed to do for the first meeting, to which I was told that it would be mainly a "getting to know each other" meeting and I would only need to prepare a little something to keep the kids occupied.
Our first meeting was this past Monday. I prepared for the meeting based on some information that I found online at scouting.org. I felt like I was somewhat prepared but I still had no idea what to expect. I originally thought that all of our dens would meet together on the first night to get the administrative business out of the way and get to know everyone. There were only a handful of people at our kickoff picnic so I still didn't really know anyone, I had no idea who the boys were that were going to be Tigers and no contact information, I didn't even know how many boys were going to be in my den. I ended up with 6 boys, which I understand is excellent considering there are 3 packs in our town alone and no advertisement of sign ups or anything like that.
At the meeting I was handed the Den & Pack Meeting Resource Guide which would have been helpful to have prior to the meeting! The dens met in separate rooms which is the normal thing to do, I guess. I have NO experience with scouts whatsoever. Our meeting was interupted at least 5 times by the CM and pack Chairperson for administrative functions which I felt should have been handled prior to or after the meeting. It was chaotic to say the least. Then, after the meeting the CM proceeded to badmouth and complain about the Chairperson in front of parents and boys.
I had no idea what I was getting myself into when I joined this pack. The lack of organization and maturity from our leaders is disappointing to say the least. I am not going to jump ship just yet, I will ride it out and see how it goes. My question here is, what can I do to make it better? I have no idea who any of the other leaders are. I don't feel that the CM will handle these issues graciously as she has already demonstrated her lack of patience and need for control. I feel as though my boys parents are going to see this poor display of behavior and either quit scouts all together or move to another pack in the area. If I hadn't volunteered to be a leader, I would be considering my options at this point.
I'm going into this blind and I need someone to help me see the light at the end of the tunnell before I get a bad taste in my mouth for this organization. I believe in the BSA organization and what it stands for but I just don't feel that the pack we joined demonstrates those qualities. HELP!