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i'm tired of being stressed..

Posted by on Mar. 23, 2013 at 12:58 PM
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lately if its not one thing its another and i just want things to go back to normal.

my FIL and i got into a big fight the other day and i told Bry that i want to move. like.. now. even the fact that we have our own apartment, separated from their house etc, its not enough because his parents think that they can just stick their nose in our business and tell me how to raise my kids and treat my husband. and the funniest part! He treats his wife like a door mat and his kids cant stand him! so he doesnt really have room to talk. i know a lot of people are just like, oh ignore people who try to tell you how to raise your kids blah blah, but i dont. i cant handle it. it pisses me off. for him to look me in the face and tell me i "treat my son like absolute crap" because i wouldnt let him have a strawberry shake at 11:30 at night makes me want to spit in his face.

i'm sure one day i will forgive him, etc but for right now, the best thing is for him to stay the hell away from me and my kids. Bry and i decided to move to Salt Lake (its like 45-90 minutes away from here depending on where exactly we go) since he works up there and it will be good for me to get out of Utah Happy Valley Mormon Town. I may be LDS but i just dont fit in with the people here. i need to be out in the real world... 

anyway. i kind of look at it like, if my FIL cant keep his nose out of my business and his opinions to himself, then he doesnt need to be involved in what we are doing etc so he wont have an opinion to form. 


am i over reacting here? should i accept his apologies and get over it? i mean, i think a lot of it is because i have seen mothers who treat their kids like "absolute crap" and i am NOT one of them, i can promise that. i just am so pissed that he said that to me, and all the other fighting we do, i'm just ready to move on and forget about him altogether.



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barneysaid
by Denise on Mar. 23, 2013 at 2:10 PM
Yea it is stressful living with people. I'm also in the same boat as you. I can't stand my mil but I have to see her everyday!! I wish I can move but my situation is a little different. What does your hubby say about the situation? Does he say to let it go?
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little.worthen
by Tessie - Owner on Mar. 23, 2013 at 2:15 PM

well they have a basement apartment. like a full apartment with a seperate entrance. but that still doesnt seem to stop them.

My husband is actually taking my side for once. He told his dad that what he said is totally offensive and disrespectful and that i am a wonderful mother and wife and he is not to talk to me like that ever again. he is also the one who suggested that we move farther away. He thinks i have a right to be mad for as long as i feel necessary and he will back me up with whatever i decide to do even if it means we wont be seeing his family hardly ever in the future.

that being said, he is still friendly with his dad now that they had their little talk, and he told his dad to stay away from me for a while.

Quoting barneysaid:

Yea it is stressful living with people. I'm also in the same boat as you. I can't stand my mil but I have to see her everyday!! I wish I can move but my situation is a little different. What does your hubby say about the situation? Does he say to let it go?




barneysaid
by Denise on Mar. 23, 2013 at 2:21 PM
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That is great that your hubby backed you up. I wish mine would sometimes. I think its a good idea to move away. Good luck with everything in the future :) ((hugs))

Quoting little.worthen:

well they have a basement apartment. like a full apartment with a seperate entrance. but that still doesnt seem to stop them.

My husband is actually taking my side for once. He told his dad that what he said is totally offensive and disrespectful and that i am a wonderful mother and wife and he is not to talk to me like that ever again. he is also the one who suggested that we move farther away. He thinks i have a right to be mad for as long as i feel necessary and he will back me up with whatever i decide to do even if it means we wont be seeing his family hardly ever in the future.

that being said, he is still friendly with his dad now that they had their little talk, and he told his dad to stay away from me for a while.

Quoting barneysaid:

Yea it is stressful living with people. I'm also in the same boat as you. I can't stand my mil but I have to see her everyday!! I wish I can move but my situation is a little different. What does your hubby say about the situation? Does he say to let it go?


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seraphimsong
by Ashley on Mar. 23, 2013 at 2:41 PM
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That would really stress me out too! He had no right to say that over a milk shake. I can't handle people butting into my life either and would prob move far far away!!!

I'm glad your hubby is backing you up 100% on this.
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EmmaZate
by Emma on Mar. 23, 2013 at 10:39 PM

Honestly, Your FIL is an absolute Prick, and you treat your kids better than most parents! Tell your FIL to kiss your Ass and Yall GTFO. Seriously, if moving is the only way to get him to butt out, then Moving is what you have to do. It will make it easier on hubbys commute, Better for you to be away from Nosy In laws and the community you dont fit in with.... And I can pretty much guarantee that you wont have to deal with your FIL forcibly stealing your car because he simply does not want to drive his. Good luck, and dont let them bully you into backing down!

little.worthen
by Tessie - Owner on Mar. 23, 2013 at 10:41 PM

thank you. it really feels good to have someone reassure me like that (= you rock! and you're totally right

Quoting EmmaZate:

Honestly, Your FIL is an absolute Prick, and you treat your kids better than most parents! Tell your FIL to kiss your Ass and Yall GTFO. Seriously, if moving is the only way to get him to butt out, then Moving is what you have to do. It will make it easier on hubbys commute, Better for you to be away from Nosy In laws and the community you dont fit in with.... And I can pretty much guarantee that you wont have to deal with your FIL forcibly stealing your car because he simply does not want to drive his. Good luck, and dont let them bully you into backing down!




EmmaZate
by Emma on Mar. 23, 2013 at 10:44 PM
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You need it. You are surrounded by bullies. And im glad that this time your husband is on your side. Not like the car issue a few weeks ago.

Quoting little.worthen:

thank you. it really feels good to have someone reassure me like that (= you rock! and you're totally right

Quoting EmmaZate:

Honestly, Your FIL is an absolute Prick, and you treat your kids better than most parents! Tell your FIL to kiss your Ass and Yall GTFO. Seriously, if moving is the only way to get him to butt out, then Moving is what you have to do. It will make it easier on hubbys commute, Better for you to be away from Nosy In laws and the community you dont fit in with.... And I can pretty much guarantee that you wont have to deal with your FIL forcibly stealing your car because he simply does not want to drive his. Good luck, and dont let them bully you into backing down!



AngryBob
by on Mar. 23, 2013 at 10:46 PM
I think you already know that you don't mistreat your kids. From the very little I've seen of you in this group and a few others, the last thing I've ever thought was, wow, she really needs to learn how to be a parent.
Family is just hard to deal with. I lived with my in laws for less than six months, and never again. I lived with my family a little longer than that, and again, I won't ever do that again. We get along much better when they live across town lol. We had to move out practically overnight because of one incident. Now we live on our own, and set the ground rules, and when they wanted to be jerks, we showed them the door. There's nothing wrong with loving someone better at a distance.
Also, I've been LDS my whole life, and so have both my parents. You couldn't pay me to live anywhere in Utah.
Except maybe St George...
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little.worthen
by Tessie - Owner on Mar. 23, 2013 at 10:59 PM

yeah i know. i'm so glad too because if he wouldnt have on this one i would have moved out already and used the money from my wedding ring to get out!

Quoting EmmaZate:

You need it. You are surrounded by bullies. And im glad that this time your husband is on your side. Not like the car issue a few weeks ago.

Quoting little.worthen:

thank you. it really feels good to have someone reassure me like that (= you rock! and you're totally right

Quoting EmmaZate:

Honestly, Your FIL is an absolute Prick, and you treat your kids better than most parents! Tell your FIL to kiss your Ass and Yall GTFO. Seriously, if moving is the only way to get him to butt out, then Moving is what you have to do. It will make it easier on hubbys commute, Better for you to be away from Nosy In laws and the community you dont fit in with.... And I can pretty much guarantee that you wont have to deal with your FIL forcibly stealing your car because he simply does not want to drive his. Good luck, and dont let them bully you into backing down!






little.worthen
by Tessie - Owner on Mar. 23, 2013 at 11:00 PM
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lol i think you're right. a far far far distance!

Quoting AngryBob:

I think you already know that you don't mistreat your kids. From the very little I've seen of you in this group and a few others, the last thing I've ever thought was, wow, she really needs to learn how to be a parent.
Family is just hard to deal with. I lived with my in laws for less than six months, and never again. I lived with my family a little longer than that, and again, I won't ever do that again. We get along much better when they live across town lol. We had to move out practically overnight because of one incident. Now we live on our own, and set the ground rules, and when they wanted to be jerks, we showed them the door. There's nothing wrong with loving someone better at a distance.
Also, I've been LDS my whole life, and so have both my parents. You couldn't pay me to live anywhere in Utah.
Except maybe St George...




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