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Consistency is Key

Posted by on May. 22, 2013 at 12:00 AM
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One way to achieve more balance in your life is to try being more consistent, something I am horrible at. We recently got a new puppy (yikes!) and it is a very strong reminder, every day, of how important consistency is to maintain order, and sanity, at home (read: avoid some chaos, hysteria, major messes and much exhaustion). Because my skills in this area are really lacking, I've looked up some tips that I'm sharing with you here:

1)   Be consistent with the timing of your routines. Just like a child's bedtime, it's important to be consistent with the timing of most things when it comes to balancing family life, from meals to playtime and TV time too. Set a realistic schedule that works for everyone, and stick with it. It might be rough at first, but the benefits will pay off.

2)   Be consistent in your discipline and messages to your kids (and puppies). No means NO. It cannot mean OK, just 1 time, 2 times, I'm warning you, this is the last time. It cannot mean maybe. Otherwise, little ones (of all species) become confused by what NO really means. Does it mean NO, never? Or does it mean MAYBE, sometimes, then never? I'm confused even typing this!

3)   Be consistent in your reactions. When a child sees a parent suddenly react differently, they learn from that. They can learn fear, or mischief, or become confused. They look to us for queues on how to react to difference situations in life, and they learn from this. If you flip out when you're stuck in traffic, or when the fruit punch is spilled, or if you dismiss it completely, your child will learn how they should react. Remember that kids want to please parents and be like them, more than anything (deep, deep, DEEP down, it's true)- so send a consistent message about what you think is right and wrong, and what is acceptable or not in terms of behavior, and you will find that your kids mirror the tone, and voice and energy that you use to react to things in life.

4)   Be consistent in your expectations. If you expect your kids to help set the table or clean up, for instance, before they can watch TV, or go to a friend's house, make sure they do it. This will teach them how to follow through on things, and also that good consequences come from being helpful. It will serve them well in many ways throughout life, and help you maintain a happier home.

Which things are important or challenging for you to be consistent in?

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by on May. 22, 2013 at 12:00 AM
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Bmat
by Member on May. 22, 2013 at 7:25 AM

I agree with the suggestions given. Consistency in enforcing rules is the hardest for me. Sometimes I am tired and just don't want to bother, but I don't dare.

goddess99
by on May. 22, 2013 at 9:20 AM
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Discipline is challenging for me, like if I tell my dd she has lost tv for a week or whatever, I forget lol. I mean really the next day that memory is gone so unless my dd is honest and just doesn't watch tv for a week, that type of consistency just doesn't work for me.

mrswillie
by on May. 22, 2013 at 10:24 AM
Enforcing consequences was also hard for me.
mrswillie
by on May. 22, 2013 at 10:27 AM
Quoting goddess99:

Discipline is challenging for me, like if I tell my dd she has lost tv for a week or whatever, I forget lol. I mean really the next day that memory is gone so unless my dd is honest and just doesn't watch tv for a week, that type of consistency just doesn't work for me.

Me too!

KaylaMillar
by on May. 22, 2013 at 10:42 AM

Its so hard to stay consistant for me. Its something that i struggle on 

ceciliam
by on May. 22, 2013 at 10:49 AM
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I am consistent with everything, except bed-time! Ugh....shame on me! It's not that bad but definitely could be better.

sukainah
by on May. 22, 2013 at 10:54 AM
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Good suggestions.  Bedtime and discipline are important to me.  The challenge is that my DH doesn't agree with my methods so they go to their dad after I tell them no.  It makes it very difficult.

MichelleK41
by on May. 22, 2013 at 11:04 AM

Discipline most definitely.

lalasmama2007
by on May. 22, 2013 at 12:17 PM

We struggle with bedtime as well =(

Quoting ceciliam:

I am consistent with everything, except bed-time! Ugh....shame on me! It's not that bad but definitely could be better.


Kmakksmom
by on May. 22, 2013 at 2:48 PM
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I seriously have to write down who's in trouble for what and their consequence beside it on our whiteboard. I have a horrible memory, and that helps to be consistent with discipline, especially with 5 kids.
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