I am fostering a 3-year old special needs boy. He goes to a special services preschool 3 days a week. He just transitioned to my home about 3 weeks ago and has some separation anxiety because of his background. Basically, he never had a stable home because he was constantly being passed around to family members and friends until he got to his first placement. He was there for about 7 months until the decision was made to terminate the parents rights. He came to my home because we want to adopt. Because of his never having a permanent home (until now hopefully!) I have always let him bring a small toy or lovey with him when we are traveling.
There's the background. So, I get him into this preschool. He gets to ride a bus there, and the bus driver keeps making up these rules about what he's allowed to bring. First he couldn't have anything with wheels. Okay, I get it - there's a safety concernif it drops and rolls round. So I let him choose a lovey to take.
This morning, the bus pulls up. He has his little stuffed bear and is about to get on the bus when the bus driver informs me that the toys are becomming a problem, especially at school, and he can't bring them any more. So I have to abrupty take away his toy and get him on the bus. At least they get to listen to him crying and I don't have to have that heart-break.
I don't mind the new rule, especially if it is a real problem. I really don't like not being contacted by the teacher in advance about this. We can definitely work on not bringing things from home, but that takes time. I would have at least liked a chance to talk to him about it and explain that the bear will be here when he gets home, etc.
I don't see how this is becomming a problem anyway. He just carries it around at home, like most kids do. When I went to visit the preschool, another child had a small doll as well, so I don't understand why my kiddo is being targeted here. Obviously, he could be acting differently at school than at home with it, but again, why was I not contacted about this. They have all of my information, so there really isn't an excuse why they couldn't have given me a heads up.
Thanks for letting me vent. :)