My MIL and FIL run a very small business. It's labor work. DH has worked for them his entire life. Unfortunately, his job is not cutting it for us now that we're married and starting a family. Here is why:
About 70% of the work FIL takes are federal jobs for the government. You obviously have to have special clearance to get in those places. Only FIL and one of his employees have the clearance. So, unless FIL has a side job going on, there is no work for DH, his brother, or the fourth employee. What it boils down to is about four or five months, spread out throughout the year, of consistent work for DH.
MIL and FIL pay every single one of BIL's bills. However, they also give him a $400- $500 check per week for doing literally NOTHING. I am not exaggerating and wish I was. Because MIL lives beyond her means (And is having to support BIL fully, on top of their bills) the business account runs low quickly. MIL and FIL live paycheck to paycheck. Well, when the account gets really low (At least once or twice a MONTH), MIL tells me we will have to wait on DH's check because she always pays BIL first. Even though, DH really does work on jobs and BIL does not leave his neighborhood. Period. We've always just bitten our tongues and let it slide. But, last week, DH said, "Why am I having to wait on my check, again? I've got bills that no one is going to pay for me and I need money. My brother doesn't work at all, why is he getting paid?" MIL looked at DH and said, "It's only because of the baby. He has a baby and that's why I do what I do." Wtf?! His baby is on WIC and all of their necessities are paid for (rent, power, water bill, cell phones, car insurance, etc.) DH and I are TTC and do not have a child yet. So, apparently, we do not deserve our hard-earned money.
Obviously, when I do actually have a viable pregnancy, I want to be able to fully support my child financially. Our goal is to have money saved before a baby comes. But, we cannot do that with DH working for his parents. There is either no work, at all, or whenever DH works his ass of, his brother gets the money that is rightfully ours! Ever since BIL's baby was born, I can expect to be told every other payday that DH's check is going to be a week or so late in coming. We can't get anywhere. We're stuck in neutral, money wise and thinking of stopping TTC until things change.
Anyway, DH finally has had enough with his parents' business practices and asked a friend to see about getting him a job where he works. The new job would be consistent hours every week, pleatny of work, and therefore more money in our bank account. The problem is, we know this is going to piss FIL off if DH gets the new job. He wants to keep DH at his disposal, but we cannot survive like this! I am just waiting for the fallout if DH gets a new job somewhere else. But, how is that fair? How can MIL and FIL expect us to keep going on like this?