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should i have some privacy in marriage?

Posted by on Apr. 30, 2013 at 8:04 AM
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So I have been married for almost two years now. Which will be in november. Now this is my first marraige and I think I am handling it pretty well. But I have a few things that I'm not sure if every marraige goes through. Me and my husband do almost everything together you know that whole 50\50 thing, but I have one thing that bothers me just a little my huband I constantly going trough my phone reading all my messages that I have with my lady friends. With me working all the time I'm not able to vent face to face with them and now I'm realizing I can do it on my phone either! Does this mean I have no privacy or is this normal?
by on Apr. 30, 2013 at 8:04 AM
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givenshl
by on Apr. 30, 2013 at 8:11 AM
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 Yes I believe you and your husband should have some privacy as long as down the line secrets don't surface that could hurt either of you.

jen1130
by Bronze Member on Apr. 30, 2013 at 8:16 AM
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Well you could just send him a text and nicely let him know it bugs
you. Just let him know that unless he thinks your doing the wrong thing
you would like to chat with your friends without editing for him.
MsMimna
by Member on Apr. 30, 2013 at 8:18 AM

You both definetly need some privacy in the marriage. If he is constantly doing this it seems to me that he is maybe a little insecure. Maybe try telling him that one of the conversations with a friend is private between you and her, that she has some things she confided that you promised to keep between you and see how he reacts. Does he let you do the same with his phone? And NO, it's not normal unless there is reason to need to check. 

kerryket
by Gold Member on Apr. 30, 2013 at 8:25 AM
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That's not ok, you need to be able to talk, I don't think my husband had ever gone through my texts, I don't go snooping around his either.
AleaKat
by Bronze Member on Apr. 30, 2013 at 9:44 AM
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You're allowed some sort of privacy in your marriage. Obviously keeping secrets is bad but I feel like as long as its nothing damaging its important to have privacy.
mysticalmalissa
by Silver Member on Apr. 30, 2013 at 9:46 AM

That sounds like an insecurity issue.


psych_mom
by on Apr. 30, 2013 at 10:46 AM

You are entitled to privacy. Can you lock your phone? Has he given you a reason?


koley05
by Member on Apr. 30, 2013 at 11:04 AM
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Vent to your friends about it, and then he will read it on your phone lol.
rebeccasmly
by Silver Member on Apr. 30, 2013 at 11:13 AM
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I was going to say something else but I really like this response, lol.

Quoting koley05:

Vent to your friends about it, and then he will read it on your phone lol.
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koley05
by Member on Apr. 30, 2013 at 11:15 AM
Quoting rebeccasmly:


yeah lol that's what I would do :)
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