My husband and I have been having issues, I'm sure every couple does. But it really pisses me off when he "disappears" the whole day! He works full time and I understand that he needs some time alone or just chillin time with his friends. He will go to work and when I expect him home from work, he "disappears" and wont call or text me to let me know what's going on. I'm the one that will send the annoying, typical wifey texts "where are you? What are you doing? When are you coming home?" We have two young children, age 5 and 1. I'm a stay at home mom and my one year old is a pain in the butt, clingy baby. I cannot leave his sight! He will cry and follow me everywhere! I had the baby blues when my second child was born. I didn't treat it because I kept thinking it will go away....but it didn't. It evolved to depression. I lost some friends, my family are not the loving, supportive family that some people are lucky to have. Therefore I have no real support system. We've talked about my depression and personally, I don't think he understands. He blames me for the fact that I don't have friends anymore... Is he right? I don't get out much, specially in the summer. The weather here gets up to 115 degrees sometimes. We live paycheck to paycheck so I'm also limited to the things that we can do. He also blames me for not getting out of the house enough. I can't even go the the grocery store by myself because when I tell him that I'm going he says "take one of the kids, I'm tired and can only keep an eye out for one." Boy does that piss me off!! It annoys me that my husband can't understand that I too need to "disappear" some times. When I actually do get a break and get out of the house, he will text/call an hour later to check on me. Right now he's out, most likely drinking and it's past 10:30pm here. Am I being selfish for getting mad at him for having some alone time? Because YES!! I am mad at him! I want and NEED some alone time.
Thanks for ready.