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Am I right to be hurt?

Posted by on May. 6, 2013 at 1:16 AM
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My sister, whom I've always been extremely close with, got married this weekend. I wasn't invited. The day I found out she was engaged, I started planning her wedding shower. The shower was 2 weeks ago and was beautiful and very successful (and extremely expensive as she is both very important to me and she expected a lot from the shower). I had been keeping in touch with her about everything. We talked every single day about her upcoming wedding. His family just plain sucks and doesn't support the marriage because no one will ever be good enough for him. They have strongly voiced their opinions about not liking my sister for reasons that are not true (like she dresses slutty. She's actually very conservative). They chose not to invite his parents or sisters because of this. However- because of this, my sister told me 3 days before the wedding that I was also not invited because they wanted to make it fair and not alienate him from his family... My mom and stepdad were able to go, and did. My sister sees nothing wrong with this, but I am incredibly hurt by this. Her wedding has come and gone and nothing will change the fact that I wasn't there. Are my feelings about this valid?
by on May. 6, 2013 at 1:16 AM
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Anonymous
by Anonymous 1 on May. 6, 2013 at 1:18 AM
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Yes, you have every right to be pissed.

LovingSAHMommy
by New Member on May. 6, 2013 at 1:21 AM

I would also be very upset. You have every right.

Ayshren
by Member on May. 6, 2013 at 3:46 AM

You have every right to be upset! That was just so wrong of her:(

xomrs.chase
by on May. 6, 2013 at 3:48 AM
I'd be very upset
Anonymous
by Anonymous 2 on May. 6, 2013 at 3:49 AM
I'd want my money back
cjsix
by Member on May. 6, 2013 at 3:50 AM

 I agree with the others ...I would be very hurt!  You gave her a wonderful shower and yet,she excluded you from being at her wedding? Did they go to the courthouse by chance?

huntersmama711
by Member on May. 6, 2013 at 3:50 AM
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Yes, you have every right to be upset. She didn't want to alienate his family? They're the ones that chose to alienate themselves by refusing to come! Even tho it'll be a case of too little, too late I hope your sister realizes the mistake she made by not allowing you to come
Anonymous
by Anonymous 3 on May. 6, 2013 at 4:22 AM
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My DH mother disliked me before she met me said awful things about me. She still she doesn't like me 6 years and a grandchild later. We still invited her to the wedding. If she hadn't come it would have been on her not us. She did show up. It was wrong of your sister to uninvite you because she and her fiance didnt invite his side. That is terrible. Why do you get punished for being a good sister? Also if it was a matter of trying to play fair why would they invite your mother and stepfather? Thats wrong I can't say it enough. I am so sorry that, that happened to you. 

mysticalmalissa
by Silver Member on May. 6, 2013 at 6:37 AM

Yes! You have every right to be mad!

Mrsmayaguy
by Member on May. 6, 2013 at 6:57 AM

Your sister is DEAD wrong! I wonder how much she will listen to him or his family during the marriage.

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