we've been married for 3.5 years and he doesnt seem to want to spend time with me or our two kids who are 3 and 1. he works full time, i stay home with kids. when hes not working he is out with friends or here and doing his own thing (sleeping, working on car, sitting on computer). i dont have my drivers license and cant leave the house. yet he goes anywhere he wants, anytime, and stays out as long as he wants (til 3am if he wants). me and the kids are always together, they are never with him so i never get a break. so i am stuck babysitting whenever he wants to get out of the house (which is all the time). i am currently learning to drive (sort of). he has taken me driving twice since we got a van 4 months ago. but i still feel like he is not doing anything to make me happy. whenver i complain about how he treats me, he starts blaming little things on me. i am ALWAYS with the kids and it drives me crazy. they go crazy too because they dont get out of the house. we go outside to play and sometimes walk to a neighbors house or the store up the street but we never do anything fun. i feel like a lot of our time is spent waiting on "daddy come home." not to mention i do everything around the house and for the kids. the most he will do is put a movie on so the kids will leave him alone. he cant even watch them while i make dinner so here i am trying to cook and the kids come in the kitchen screaming and needing things and attention and he is sitting at the desk on the computer ignoring them. i just want him to put more effort into making me a happier wife. theres only so much i can do to keep us sane. he needs to care more.