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My name is Kristen and I am 26 years old, I was blessing with a baby boy on july 31st, 2012. He is now 10 months. I have a long story to tell and I am scared as to how people will react. I'm being very brave about telling my story. So here it goes.....
On Nov 2011 I met the father of my child at TGIF. I was having dinner with a couple friends and we spotted each other at first glance. i went to the bar to get a beer and saw we were drinking the same thing. We got to talking and he asked for my number. The next day he called me and we hung out ever since. Then i got pregnant in the middle of the november unexpectly and unplanned and we were not together as couple. there was a period in march that we didnt talk for 3 weeks. He flipped out once he heard I was pregnant, he wanted me to get an abortion, i said no. He got mad and flipped out and said a lot of hurtful things that i still remeber to this day, it still repeats in my head. I was very pregnant and was going through a hard rollercoaster for 5 months, everyday i heard it from him that he would resent me, telling me I would be a mother, to im stupid, im a bitch, im a terrible person, im a loser. He even said that he didnt think the baby was his(typical talk from a jerk right?).
In june 2012 he started saying he wanted to help me buy a crib, by this and that and help and blah blah. I didnt want to wait for his ass to help me. so when i had my baby shower, i rounded up the gifts i knew i wasnt going to use gathered my gift cards and my own money that i saved before i was laid off and my bought a crib, changing table, clothes, pampers, his letter L I A M, anything that he needed i got for him all by myself! He was still in denial about the baby being his child and he wanted a DNA test and I let him have. You know he's so fucking lucky i let him in the deleviery room with his mom and my mom and him. I could of been a real bitch and said no fuck you. i'll call you when im out of the hospital. After i had liam he wanted to leave and go home and rest, and he didnt he stayed but never once got up to help me. i had just given birth naturally i was bleeding out of my mind, i was in pain and i was breastfeeding my baby. he never once got up on his own to help me, i had to scream at him at night to help me with my son. I must sound like a total idiot for even letting him in right?
Second day while i had just put liam to sleep a tester came to do the dna test, and it was heartbreaking. i couldnt talk or fill out the paper work. she did it for me. I knew it was his because i am loyal and im not that kind of girl. He spent 300 dollars on the dna test and he got it back and of course its his. duh! He fianlly put him on his insurance.
He started coming over to my house to visit and "help". Talk about BS, he'd come over for an hour and leave and go home and parade around like he has no responsibility. The one day i needed him when liam was 2 weeks old he wouldnt stop crying. would you all would like to know WTF he said to me? He told me he didnt feel like talking to anyone and that he was going to turn off his phone. You know facebook and it never lies, that nght around 2am he was out and about with his friends and comes over the next day like nothing HAPPENED!
3 months come he stops coming over.
I started going over when liam was about 5months and visiting and started staying over by 8 months, we started to work things out but he didnt want a title.
I dont know why i like him so much, maybe because i want to try and work it out for the sake of my son. I come from a broken family, parents divorced at 16. I want to try and he doesn't really want to right. We act like a couple. anyways.
i dont work, i care for liam since day 1! i live with my mom, step dad and my 19 year old brother. He hasnt come over since liam was 3 months. He barely gives me any money for anything, i never ask but when i need it i ask and its for liam not for myself. I am now giving him an ultimaium. you either want to try and work out and see what happens or i need to move the fuck on.
he now lives with parents, he is using this excuses for not being boyfriend/gf because he lives with his parents
he doesnt know what he wants
he doesnt want a title but likes the way we are
were together but not together
he wants everything easy
he doesnt pay child support
he barely gives me money
he rather go see his friends than come over and see his son
i have a lot of other things i would like to post but its really hard for me to express that right now
he is very misleading. i need to settle this once and final.
i want to try and work it out for liam and if it doesnt work out i can at least tell my son that i tried and tried.