If you can't afford it - don't do it!!! **UPDATE**
OK quick summary :: I "dated" this guy for like a week in HS and he's sweet talked me ever since, his Grandmother worked at my families business for a few years. I don't go out of my way to talk to him because he's a sleeze and he annoys me, and yes, I've made it known to him.
He tells me that he's finally getting married. O_o He wants my shop to do his flowers. o_O He and his fiance come in and I talk with them for an hour or more. They're getting married in October of this year, OK, I need a deposit by June 1st. Well that comes and goes, I emailed him and said that we need it within the week. He goes on about how he really doesn't have a job, that they won't be going to anyone else, he'll get it by that coming weekend he said. Fine, whatever. Well that comes and goes and I talk to him again, he basically says that he has mortgage and other bills to pay that are more important. Then why the hell are you planning on a wedding!?!? Come to find out, they aren't getting married where they intended, now it's going to be in their backyard.. and that possibly there won't be a wedding at all. Are you friggin kidding me?!
I sent him another email telling him that he had to pay by Friday June 28th or he loses the date with us. He texted me last night saying he would be in today and that we need to calm down, blah blah blah. He comes in today with his slick b.s. talk and how his power was shut off and they're trying and blah blah blah. Then goes into how his fiance wants to go over things about the wedding because the price isn't what we talked about blah blah blah. They had a $500 budget .. we gave a family discount on top of not charging them full price on items. That just isn't enough for them and he goes on to tell me that he could go some where else by the end of the day, get what they want and spend more. I told him fine, handed him his $50 back and told him to go that I didn't want his business. He was shocked and said no, take it, he was going to use our business.
I told him that his fiance needs to contact me (not by my personal phone like he's been trying to) and set up an appointment to fine tune everything and so on. I also told him that I need a payment every other week and that the balance needs to zero two weeks prior to the wedding. I was not moving on my terms, if he didn't like it that I will refund his money in a second.
Why would you plan a wedding, still having relationship issues, still not working, and so on?! It's stupid! DF and I are not married yet because he has financial things on his end that he needs to straighten out that I don't want associated with me. We decided that we want to get married in the courthouse and then save for a small wedding/reception/honeymoon for the following year. We don't want to become further in debt because we want an actual wedding and so on.
I am so fed up with this guy!!! Any other place would have upped the deposit on him for making them wait a month for a deposit. Not to mention, he wouldn't be getting a break, his just over $500 wedding would be nearly $700.
Here we are, just over two weeks away from the wedding and guess what!?!? All we have received was a $50 deposit and a bunch of B.S. lines from both of them. I am so over it. I sent them both an email today telling them that they had until this Friday to pay the balance ($450something) or we wouldn't be doing their wedding. Some of the flowers aren't hard to get, but some are, to ensure that we have them we have to order them no later than this coming Monday, which means we have to pay for them!! The wholesalers have changed their routes, so we would have to get the flowers way early in the week of the wedding........ blah blah blah.
So far I haven't heard anything from either of them. It just ticks me off that the both of them would do this, old friends or not. If you have to get your butts out of debt once you started your new job, maybe you should have pushed your wedding date a bit further down the road to ensure that you can pay for it..... and in a timely fashion!!
Speak of the devil!! The "friend" is calling me now on my cell phone, guess he has forgotten my conversation about not calling me on my personal phone about his wedding. Ugh.