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Posted by on Jul. 15, 2013 at 10:55 AM
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10 Most Annoying Things Kids Do on Playdates

by Jeanne Sager

playdateI love when my daughter has playdates at our house. She has fun. I get to take a break from being her main source of entertainment. And there's none of the stress over whether she's behaving at someone else's house. There is, however, one big problem with hosting playdates: the behavior of the other kids!

The key to a bad playdate is a monster kid, and if they do anything on this list, they're not going to be invited back:

1. Eating out of my fridge without asking. I always make sure I have plenty of snacks on hand when there are kids over, and chances are you COULD have that yogurt or popsicle. But I might have been saving it for something special (you know, like my lunch). All you had to do was ask.

2. Being mean to my dog. This is HER house, and she deserves to be safe here (that's why I rescued her in the first place!).

3. Leaving dirty socks in the middle of my living room floor. We're a barefoot family, and whipping your socks off to run outside is pretty common. But trust me, smelling my own kid's stinky ones is enough for me. It may not be a dealbreaker, but it's not exactly endearing.

4. Treating my furniture like a jungle gym. I give the really little ones a pass (my friend's 4-year-old is still a bit of a climber, and she is also very good about lecturing him about not climbing my furniture). But if you're 8 years old, you're old enough to know better than to stand on the back of my couch or throw yourself into my dining room chairs.

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5. Ignoring me when I talk to you. I don't care how shy you are. When you are in my house, and I ask you whether you want a PB&J or a ham sandwich, you answer me! 

6. Encouraging my daughter to be naughty. My kid is not an angel. I know she'll get up to hijinx all by herself, but when I can hear you in her bedroom trying to convince her to disobey me, you are reminding me to lose your phone number.

10 annoying things kids do on playdates7. Wasting food. If you don't like the way I make mac and cheese, that's fine. But don't go for seconds when you didn't even finish your first helping ... and then leave it all on the plate.

8. Not taking "no" for an answer. I'm a pretty easygoing mom, and when my daughter has a friend over, I don't hover. When I say "no," I have a very good reason. If you can't listen to my rules, I can't guarantee to your mom that you'll be safe at my house.

9. Being mean to my kid. I expect her to be nice to you, and I will discipline her if she isn't. I expect the same from you.

10. Demanding electronics. You're here to play with my kid, not use our XBox or watch TV. Get your butt outside!

What's the worst thing a child has done during a playdate at your house? Did you ban them from your house?

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jeda1429
by on Jul. 15, 2013 at 1:38 PM

The nieghbor girl tried to sneak her giant dog in the back door after I told her that she could not bring her dog in my house . I was not pleased. My son has another friend who eats out of our fridge without asking > I do think it's rude , but I give him a little lee way because both he and my son are autistic and social norms are harder for them. I have however taught my son that you do not eat out of someone's fridge without asking , and you do not beg for food at someone's house. He is always fed before he goes for a play date and is to wait for them to offer.

lovemylife72311
by on Jul. 15, 2013 at 2:16 PM

BUMP!

lovemylife72311
by on Jul. 15, 2013 at 2:17 PM

you should post this in MC lots of replies!!!!!!

Anonymous
by Anonymous on Jul. 15, 2013 at 3:44 PM
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I had a kid come over once who refused to listen to me, he would do the opposite and stare at me, like I said Once...
Anonymous
by Anonymous on Jul. 15, 2013 at 4:39 PM
Stealing my kids toys, really?
ilovemykids732
by on Jul. 15, 2013 at 4:47 PM

Eh, I had a friend over right after I had my youngest ds, her ds was 5 and there to play with my 6 year old... she was going to watch my infant so that I could get some housework done... I was home if I was needed... but I also asked her to watch the older boys meanwhile too... I walked into the room to find her on the phone texting, her son in my babies swing, and my DS telling him he NEEDED to get out, I walked into the room and told him to get out, he did and went and sat on the couch... cool beans... my baby was in his pack and play bassinet thing... I walked into the other room to start a load of laundry and went to check in on the boys again because my friend was way to into her conversation than to pay attention to the boys... Her son was in the bassinet with my infant... I sent her and her DS on their way... I was FURIOUS...

Lissa14
by Member on Jul. 15, 2013 at 5:11 PM
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They are kids!!! I feel sorry for ur daughter!""
Rooobeee
by on Jul. 15, 2013 at 7:31 PM

The one thing that I hated the most was cleaning up a huge mess after everyone left. It was always like that when I was a kid. So when my kids were little, I made sure that before their friends left, they picked up any of the toys that they played with and put them away.

calsmom62
by on Jul. 15, 2013 at 10:24 PM
coloring on the walls. not oreschoolers but third grader. that rankled me. the kid sat in the corner of the playroom with a marker behind her back scribbling on the wall. unfortunately while i did note her odd movements i didnt realize until after she went home the damage she did. after that she got a little more supervision and all the markers were no longer left in the art cart.
Anonymous
by Anonymous on Jul. 16, 2013 at 12:07 AM

I've had a kid turn away from me, put his hands up over his shoulders (fingers pointing in, near his ears) and moved his hands as though I was just saying "blah blah blah" to him.  I sent his little butt home and told him he's not allowed back in my house till he learns some respect for adults.  He is 5, but still....I have 5 kids under the age of 8, and none of them would EVER dream of doing that to an adult.  

I also have rainbow colored yarn balloons hanging from the ceiling in the play room, and a different kid climbed up on various toys and ripped them all down off of my ceiling.  I had another kid rip the crayons off of a crayon art canvas, hanging on the wall.  He climbed on some things to rip it down.  He got sent home, and my kids got in trouble for allowing it to happen while I was making them lunch.

I would also love it if kids would pick up when I gave them the 5 minute warning and told them to clean up.  They are kids, so I try to let a lot of things go, but destroyinig my stuff, that my children have NEVER bothered, is way beyond rediculous.  In those moments, it does make me thankful that I have good kids.

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