He used the fact that I have fertility issues (PCOS) and desparately wanted kids as leverage to get together, telling me it was "meant to be". Now that we have 2 kids and I don't make more money than him, he thinks it's suddenly the 1950's. He will be a slob about something and just walk away like he expects me to follow him around with a janitor cart. He is so relationship inexperienced that I actually have to "recap" our arguements later for him and point out that where he blows stuff out of proportion and what he can do to prevent it next time. I shouldn't have to mediate this crap but we have both found that it's necessary and the only thing that helps. He will flat out deny that he talk rude to me even when it's over-the-top patronizing rude tones. Like if he denies it enough he thinks he will convince me that I imagined it? I need a deep breath and a ten count!!