My in-laws are moving out or state at the beginning of March, and we are going to rent their house from them since they will give us a better deal than anyone else. Our lease is up at the end of the month, so we'll be living with them until they move. They also want me to go back part time, and MIL has offered to watch my baby (who's 5 months old and exclusively breast fed) for me while I'm at work. I'm not comfortable with this.
MIL suffered from encephalitis about 7 or 8 years ago, and as a result she has brain damage. She had to relearn how to do everything, how to walk, talk, etc. Her speech is still not very good, she can only drive places that are a few miles away (and she's too scared to drive on the freeway) and she gets stressed out and overwhelmed very easily, and will start yelling and banging things around making all kinds of noise.
FIL and hubby seem to think she is perfectly capable of taking care of my infant though. I don't know how to bring up this extremely touchy subject, especially since we'll be living in their home. She's VERY sensitive. The reason I brought up the fact that he's breastfed is that there is a certain way to bottle feed breastfed babies, and I don't think she will have the patience to do this. But besides that, god forbid something were to happen where my son had to be rushed to the hospital, and she couldn't drive there? Or what if she couldn't get him to stop crying and became overwhelmed and stressed out? She throws things when she's stressed and angry. He will pick up on her stress and just cry more. I don't know what to do. I am completely uncomfortable with MIL watching him, but I don't have another choice for a babysitter. We can't afford to pay anyone, that would defeat the purpose of me going back to work. Not only that, but I don't know how to bring this up to hubby without him getting defensive and thinking I'm a total b.