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"all men do it"????!!!

Anonymous
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Is there anything women can get away with? I was reading the post about porn and so many responses were that its ok for dh to watch it because "all men do it" and "at least he's not cheating."  Well, my goodness! Thank you SO much for actually obeying your vows and not cheating! You deserve a treat, please go get yourself off by watching sexual acts! Its like we have been groomed to be grateful that our husbands aren't cheating. And on this same topic, is there anything women can do and get away with because "all women do it"? For instance we all have pms and can get eomtional but we're still labeled a bitch or acting bitchy. Men don't go around saying "well she has pms but at least she didn't kill me", I mean that's a stretch but does anyone see my point? Its sad thatso many women are uncomfortable or hurt by their man watching porn but have to bite their tongue because they feel they should be grateful he's not cheating.

Posted by Anonymous on Dec. 21, 2013 at 11:33 AM
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amazzonia
by Member on Dec. 21, 2013 at 11:37 AM
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I know my husband doesn't watch porn, and honestly in only a US thing the idea that all men watch porn, honestly most European man don't and if they want to watch a porn they do it with their companion....there is not much difference between cheating and watching a porn and masturbating....between the two I think I would rather be cheated on

Anonymous
by Anonymous on Dec. 21, 2013 at 11:40 AM
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Oh my goodness!! Thank you for this post!! I completely agree. I get so angry when i hear people say that!! It gets on my nerves
Anonymous
by Anonymous on Dec. 21, 2013 at 11:42 AM
I agree...maybe I should go find a European man? Lol just a thought

Quoting amazzonia:

I know my husband doesn't watch porn, and honestly in only a US thing the idea that all men watch porn, honestly most European man don't and if they want to watch a porn they do it with their companion....there is not much difference between cheating and watching a porn and masturbating....between the two I think I would rather be cheated on

Anonymous
by Anonymous on Dec. 21, 2013 at 12:06 PM
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Why are people so hung up on what other people are doing, we are all consenting adults, if it does not bother me, why does it bug you?
Anonymous
by Anonymous on Dec. 21, 2013 at 12:07 PM
Did you take a poll?

Quoting amazzonia:

I know my husband doesn't watch porn, and honestly in only a US thing the idea that all men watch porn, honestly most European man don't and if they want to watch a porn they do it with their companion....there is not much difference between cheating and watching a porn and masturbating....between the two I think I would rather be cheated on

Anonymous
by Anonymous on Dec. 21, 2013 at 12:56 PM
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Several flaws in your logic---not that I expect it to be taken to heart.

1) Women can masturbate. Why not? Where do you get that they can't? Is it maybe a problem with society that we don't teach our girls that masturbation is perfectly ok like we do boys? Maybe we'd have less teen/unwanted pregnancy. I masturbate too. If you think it's not ok then you ARE the problem and its a self-fulfilling prophesy.

2) How does porn equate to cheating? If you consider it cheating, perhaps you should have made that clear at the gate. Then if you did, its a clear cut issue. He knew you see it as cheating and did it and its cheating then. But if you didn't make that clear, you assumed he saw it as cheating and when you assume you make an ass out of yourself.

3) as for your contention that men get away with more stuff: how about how we can slap a man but god forbid he hit us back because "you don't hit girls". If we withhold sex as punishment but if men do it its a tip off to adultery and they just don't love us anymore. There are just so many more.

4) its actually medically beneficial for men AND WOMEN to masturbate. It's been linked to lower rates of depression, aggression and deeper more restful sleep.

5) now for my favorite: YOU'RE NOT THEIR MOTHER AND ITS NOT YOUR PENIS SO YOU HAVE NO MORE SAY IN WHAT THEY DO WITH IT THAN THEY HAVE OVER WHAT YOU DO WITH YOUR VAGINA!
MissTacoBell
by Taco Bell Princess on Dec. 21, 2013 at 1:00 PM
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Why do I care what dh does with his penis. God didn't tattoo "future property of MissTacoBell" so I assume it remains his to do with as he pleases. And if it makes him happy to watch porn then bonus. Happy wife, happy life: happy husband, happy life.
Terpsichore
by Member on Dec. 21, 2013 at 1:05 PM

 I love your post and agree with it. Can I have fun with it though?

Quoting Anonymous:

 Men don't go around saying "well she has pms but at least she didn't kill me" 

I think maybe DH does. If I heard him call me bitchy while I'm pmsing . . .!

I found a saying I like pertaining to this. Saying you shouldn't be unhappy because someone might be worse off than you is like saying you shouldn't be happy because someone might be happier than you. Apply that to being thankful at least your husband isn't physically cheating or actively promoting the degredation of women. Even if the porn stars are.

amazzonia
by Member on Dec. 21, 2013 at 1:40 PM

There is a thing called real life, where you interact with people and you don't need to take polls 

Quoting Anonymous: Did you take a poll?

Quoting amazzonia:

I know my husband doesn't watch porn, and honestly in only a US thing the idea that all men watch porn, honestly most European man don't and if they want to watch a porn they do it with their companion....there is not much difference between cheating and watching a porn and masturbating....between the two I think I would rather be cheated on


amazzonia
by Member on Dec. 21, 2013 at 1:43 PM
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I think the main difference is that in Europe sex is seen like a normal part of life, not like a sinful act like here in the US. You see naked man and women everywhere, from museums to tv, to beaches, the human body and sex are just normal things, not something evil and sinful that has to be done in secret...so I  a husband wants to see a.porn, h  just watches with his wife so they can try at least to recreate the movie lol instead of doing everything by himself loo

Quoting Anonymous: I agree...maybe I should go find a European man? Lol just a thought

Quoting amazzonia:

I know my husband doesn't watch porn, and honestly in only a US thing the idea that all men watch porn, honestly most European man don't and if they want to watch a porn they do it with their companion....there is not much difference between cheating and watching a porn and masturbating....between the two I think I would rather be cheated on


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