My SO, mildly mentally-handicapped, 46yr old brother- knowing my SO was out of house with his daughter & his parents were out of house too- walked into, by at least 5 full steps, my SO & my bedroom, supposedly to let a kitten in, and WATCHED ME IN THE SHOWER!!!! I'd say it was at least a full minute to 3 he was there before I realized 1) Someone was watching me & 2) It WASN'T my SO!!! I totally freaked & screamed at him "get out & what the hell"!!! But the damage was done- he saw me nude, on purpose for his jollies & I was violated in my own home, my safe spot!
My SO was told as soon as he got home( it was hard for me to tell him as I Knew it was going to cause a huge "issue"/fight & was reluctant to do so.) & he confronted his brother who admitted it. His brother said it was to let the kitten in but that he saw me and liked it.
When his parents got back to our home, where everyone was staying for holidays, they were promptly told by my SO( I was asked to stay out of it & let him handle it, as he Knew it'd go the way it did, sadly!) & his mother went off to point that she BLAMED ME for how I dress! Said "She asked for it- wearing bikinis & those low cut tops this summer! And yoga pants here, during our visit to YOUR house! And she must be lying or over-reacting!"( ps: I model professionally! And did a shoot during the summer!)... But REALLLY?!?! She was one of the first out there for Womens Lib, SO said.. . SO DID stick up for me and tell his mom she was crazy & I was NOT at fault! That it was his brother & his brothers actions. And that he was going to protect me & his dd( & niece & the girls friends) & that "No she isn't lying, I confronted him & he admitted it! And he DOES know right from wrong, he's NOT a dummy Ma!" I heard him say..
And no, his brother Never apologized- or was made to apologize. Nor was his brother involved in the argument between their mother & my SO( his stepdad wisely chose to sit in great room with a book til this was over that night!HE apologized for his stepson & his wife's actions...go figure!). And his mother never apologized either for anything that was said or done, by her or my SO brother..
I am a sexual assault survivor and this has been a, fairly, traumatic event for me. It has triggered what my abuser used to do to me & made me feel "unclean/unsafe" in my own home!! I'm having trouble sleeping due to flashbacks to that event and the abuse when. I was younger. My eating is messed up too & and my health has suffered from the stress of it. I feel sooooo guilty. Especially like I shouldn't have said anything...
Also I am having a problem that his mother now blames ME for "Causing this" & even tho my SO IS 110% behind me on this( to protect Me & his 16yr old dd) he still said that 'by protecting me the relationship with his mother was strained at best. But that he loves me and has always said he will do what he needs to to keep me safe.' He has even gone a step further then talking to his mom and that is telling her his younger brother is Not allowed or welcome at his home anymore. Due to the fact of the shower incident, the inappropriate comments/touching & the fact he between the legs groped me at Disney in FL 2yrs ago( SO had thought it was "just" a butt pinch...but it was a between legs full body grop, shudder).... And also not welcome at the condo he gets in FL every summer by Disney, even for just a day visit.
Just looking for advice & support here.... And Anyone else ever had anything like this happen?!?! Please be nice!!!!