The final nail in the coffin of a father/ son relationship
In a wavering, shaky voice, she tells me every detail.... Leaving nothing out.....Starting with the alcohol binge he had before he came home.
He is a career alcoholic....The only thing he's been good at. The MINOR good news is no one will post bail. She has no friends here and I told her to pack up and come here ASAP. I refuse to let her go back to Fla. Until trial.
It's important that for once he just absolutely has to face up to who he has become.
The police wanted to document all injuries and get a statement and get the restraining order before driving her to the ER themselves for x rays, and full medical report.
SO, I'm trying to explain to my lovely son what has happened. I spare him details but I tell him the what and who and that Miss
"B"will be coming to stay with us for awhile and what to expect her to look like ( preparation).
My fourteen yr old horrified son covered his face with his hands ...wet cheeks,and he whispers
" mom? Thank you for getting us out of there before I was born"
In a child's only way to deal right now is passive aggressive so he blocked his father from FB. His relationship with his father is dead now. He wants to have some loyalty, I can tell..... But he knows it isn't there on either side.
Now he is just wandering the house in a zoned out state and this is where you leave them to their thoughts ?
I told him he was to be careful in case ex DID get out and came to school and tried to check him out or convince him to go with him instead of the bus.... That ex had nothing to lose at this point and may try to take him and I could not handle that.
I knew ex had a violent streak, but if I told you what he did????? It's sickening.
I just want her here, in my home so she will feel less likely panic and drop charges or not show up for the hearing.
I hate him now, many years if dislike ... It's hate now.
My son has been further broken, another person has been physically broken.
I am done. This is why we never wanted our CS/ custody/ visitation in the court system at all . I would not get child support anyway. Well played on my part....My son has full rights to refuse to see him and I can also bar any communication.
It's heartbreaking for my son.
But when I tucked him in, I told him that I was sorry his. " first" dad is what he is.
My son answered into his pillow. "Well, I think I'm just going to cut that tumor out."
Ironically, that's something ex would say....