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What so many women don't know about their bodies is soooooooooooo sad!!!

Posted by on Feb. 5, 2014 at 8:32 PM
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Edit.  Please know this is a VENTING post.  I do not BLAME women for not knowing these things!!  I hope this post gets some attention!!  Blessings!!!

Wow, my first featured post!!   To those who take issue with some of my facts, especially regarding the position of the cervix in the vaginal canal during fertile/infertile periods, as I told them, I am 55 and it has been a while since I had to check these things!!  Always do your own research when you start to learn new things!! Nonetheless the very large majority of what I posted is true.  There is so much we don't know about our bodies that we need to know.  I hope all women we have the opportunity to know   any of these things will pass them on!!  Blessings!!

Hi! I just read one more post about birth control.  All those posts basically make me furious!!  Why?  Because so many women really don't know how their bodies even work, reproductively speaking.  Not too long ago I read a post on CM where a women didn't know that, basically, her vagina and her urethra had separate openings.  That made me furious too, because there were so many relatively smart women who were misinformed.  So let me ask you these questions CM users:

How many young girls and adolescents and even adult women do you know who don't understand what their cervical mucus is and what that damp feeling in their underwear is all about, and wonder if there is something wrong with them when there is a lot of it?  I have met many of those women because I ask given my profession.

Do you know what your cervical mucus is, and how it changes during your menstrual cycle?

Did you know that this cervical mucus can stretch up to 7 or even more inches during the fertile time of your cycle, and that its consistency then becomes a lot like egg white at this time?

Did you know that this cervical mucus is very "tacky"  and non stretchy when you are not fertile and that this can give you lots of information about your cycle, and about your fertility?

Did you know that your cervical mucus can often tell you many things, like the type of vaginal infection you may have, and weather it be yeast or bacterial? Yes! it can!!

Do you know that the position of your cervix in your vagina changes during your cycle such that you can easily tell when you are becoming fertile, and when you are higly likely to be fertile? Yes, yes yes, it does!!.  It is way up high in the vaginal canal when infertile, and it starts to go lower and lower in the vaginal canal as you become fertile!  It also gets softer and "smushier" when fertile.  And guess what??? That cervix feels more open and "loose" when fertile!!   It feels closed and harder when infertile!!

Did you know that it is a simple matter of a chart or graph, these signs, and a basal thermometer and you will know for sure when you are ovulating after about four months?  Yes, you will, and they have classes to teach you these methods. Some folks don't use that temperature sign and do fine!!  I didn't need to use that temperature sign after a while of charting,  COZ I KNEW MY BODY!!!

Did you know that if you are trying to get fertile, good old guaifenisin/robitussin with only guaifenisin which is prescribed to make the mucus in your upper respiratory tract during a cold to loosen up and get easier to cough up and out, can also help that cervical mucus do the same thing?  Yes it does!!!.  I have heard of many women who get fertile by simply changing the consistency of their cervical mucus in this manner, because sometimes various health conditions mean the cervical mucus is too tacky or thick to allow sperm through?Yes, that's true!!!

It REALLY upsets me that so many women do not KNOW these things.  It really upsets me that we have mothers not teaching their daughters these things. I read a post on CM recently about a 15 year old not wanting to use a tampon coz she can't stand touching herself during her period.  THAT really upsets me!! Our bodies are special and fascinating, and we, as women, deserve to know how to deal with our bodies in as natural of a way as we can!!  Our daughters deserve to know what we know.  But we can't teach them if WE don't know!!!(And once I knew, then I learned other things that greatly helped me healthwise.)

It really upsets me that we have doctors that do not know these things!!  It really upsets me that there are fertility specialists that may not know these things or teach them to mothers and fathers trying to conceive.  But more than anything else it really upsets me that it is the medical profession itself and Big Pharma that don't want women to know this stuff  coz then they wouldn't be able to sell their pills and their chemicals and what have you!  All that knowledge went underground when the good old "Pill" became available!!  When you look into it it is really disgusting!! 

It really upsets me that women don't have more choices coz so many don't know this stuff!!  It really upsets me that so called feminists who are out there pushing for birth control "rights" may not,  or don't know these things!!!   WE need to know these things!!!  It makes things so much easier!!!  Do you know how badly I needed to know these things when I was a teenager so I could have a clue when my very irregular period was going to start!!!  That could have saved me so much grief!!  Frankly, as soon as I learned all this stuff I was very very pissed off!!  How many of your own peers do you remember having a terrible time with their periods as teens and having to go home to change their clothes!!    How many late periods have made you afraid you were pregnant?  It is ridiculous!!  When you know these signs you can have a reasonable knowledge that it is highly unlikely that you conceived if you made love during your nonfertile time!!  IF that cervix is high in the canal and hard, and your temperature is doing nothing, then if you want to take a very unlikely chance, and are willing to welcome a beautiful child into this world, then  you can choose to take chances that you WANT to take!!   My period stayed irregular my whole life.  But when I knew this stuff, it was PREDICTABLE, and there were no accidents!!   Not with my periods and my freeking underwear, and not with conceiving children either!!

I am 55. I have only two children.  I chose to use the symptothermal method of regulating the number of children I was likely to have because my personal faith means I did not WANT to use any form of birth control and I did not believe in that.  I wouldn't have wanted to anyway because of various health concerns with the PILL too!!.  But basically I do not believe in it.  Nonetheless, I would not have known all of this if I did not take various classes, read various books,  and learn this stuff when I was in my twenties!!!.  I wish I could have had more children, but I had physical conditions that meant I needed to be a responsible parent and responsible for caring for myself and the children I already had, as well as being a loving spouse.  THERE, end of venting rant.  I just hope this well help a few women who are interested enough to listen and learn!

by on Feb. 5, 2014 at 8:32 PM
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by Anonymous 1 on Feb. 5, 2014 at 8:42 PM
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Instead of being so upset about this, why don't you teach women and girls about their bodies? Instead of being so upset why don't you write a book about it, since you know more about these issues than specialists that have gone to medical school for years? Instead of being so upset about it write a post an educational post here instead of insulting some on here who never had anyone to teach them these things?
by Member on Feb. 5, 2014 at 8:47 PM

I am not meaning to insult anyone.  It is not their fault!!!  I am writing this post in this way so that ho pefully it gets some attention!  There are people out there teaching women these things.  There are.  That is not my calling.  I am a writer and I have another profession.  But I do care, and I hope this post gets some attention!! Blessings!!!

by on Feb. 5, 2014 at 9:01 PM
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I totally agree with you, OP.  I think it's outrageous for a female to not be fully educated about everything special about her body from an early age.  It IS things they need to know.  I cannot fathom it being their very own body and them not knowing all about it.  I also think it's sad for them to feel any negative feelings about their bodies, like the girl thinking it was gross to touch herself to use a tampon.  Somewhere they are getting that message that their body is gross.  They really need to have it reinforced to them that they are NOT gross.  I also know all of the details about fertility awareness that you mentioned.  When I stopped taking the pill in my early 20s, I wanted to be observant of the signs of cycles until my periods returned.  Once they did though, I started using a diaphragam.  I know that many say that fertility awareness is effective, I was in college, still felt "iffy" about it, and just didn't want to take what I perceived as risks.  But I did notice all of those changes, and they are pretty easy to notice if you know what they are.  I think all like-minded women need to start a "girl's feminine health" class for the girls in their community and give them positive information.  But alas, I'm afraid that it would really be fought against.

by Anonymous 2 on Feb. 5, 2014 at 9:02 PM
I know a lot about mine it works just great thanks.
by on Feb. 5, 2014 at 9:03 PM
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I did not know that about Robitussin! Thanks!
by on Feb. 5, 2014 at 9:21 PM
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I have to say OP I did not know some of that stuff.  I'm 52 and have two children.I have read many books about my body and have had my girls read books, but I have never read all that stuff about the cervix and the mucus.  Where did you read it?  I would like to read it also.

by Member on Feb. 5, 2014 at 9:21 PM
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Actually, the cervical mucus stretches right before ovulation.  Once you are in the fertile period and ready to get pregnant, the CM is like water.  That makes it easier for the sperm to reach the egg.

by Anonymous 3 on Feb. 5, 2014 at 9:28 PM
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All i know is no condom, no birth control equals pregnancy. I know how to avoid getting diseases. I have three kids and know nothing about cervical mucus. It's just not important to me.
by Anonymous 4 on Feb. 5, 2014 at 9:53 PM
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i agree with you that all women should know that. And I'm a follower of Christ so I sympathize with religious beliefs affecting your choices. Though I do believe in most forms of birth control. BUT one thing you should know is that natural family planning does not work effectively for all women. For some very fertile women they are going to be pregnant every two years anyway. Trust me, I know. But if it does work effectively for you that's great. Though I know some women don't like to abstain during the fertile times b/c that is when it is most pleasureful.

by Member on Feb. 5, 2014 at 9:53 PM
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Thank you for the information!
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