You chose to have a baby. Why do you think everyone else should pay for everything?
My friend recently had a baby. She made it known to everybody throughout the pregnancy that we all needed to make sure she had everything she needed for the baby. She was telling us all what we were gonna buy her for her shower. The item she chose for me was a more expensive item. She made me godmother and said that being godmother i had to buy something expensive. I later found out she had several godmothers. I guess so she could get us all to buy expensive things. SO and i were trying to conceive so we were saving money and trying to be frugal for when we did have a baby(we got pregnant almost right after she had her baby). We were sacrificing daily so we could save up i wasn't about to go drop a bunch of cash that was for our baby on someone else's baby. We have 2 kids also so we have priorities above us and our friends. I told her i couldn't buy it and i got some cute outfits for the shower(I was going to get something else like the baby tub but everything i could think of that was less than $100 she would say someone else is getting it. With an attitude.) She cried for days after the shower because she didn't get everything she wanted to get. Making it sound like no one cared about her.
Her pregnancy was not an accident. They had been trying to conceive for over a year. They hadn't saved up anything. My pregnancy was planned but i don't expect anyone to buy what i need for my baby. If we didn't think we can afford it we would have waited. The other day she was telling me that she has barely spent anything on the new baby. Like...ok...glad you're proud of that. I wouldn't be. When did baby showers become all about making everyone support your baby? I thought they were about celebrating a new life? I guess it's just the materialistic culture we live in. It's not everyone else's responsibility to make sure your kid has what it needs. You are the parents. Take care of your own child. If people do buy you things for the baby you should be grateful. You shouldn't expect anything and you should know that if no one buys you anything that it will be ok because you can afford it.