Can't take it anymore **vent** Sorry, kind of long. **Edit**
OMG I can't take it anymore! My SO has been putting me last when it comes to us. I don't even know how to explain it but I'll try. This is a continual problem, NOT the first time we've had this issue.
We had plans tonight. He decided to hang out with a friend, which would interfere with our plans, without seeing if I would be okay with it. I would have been fine if he had said something like "Would you mind if I had a beer with my friend? I'll be a little later but we can still do what we had planned, just a little later."
Ok, thanks for asking. I don't mind, what time will you be home? (would have been my response).
Instead he texted me and TOLD me he was going to hang out with this friend, like I was only a second thought to him and our plans were not important.
This would not have been such a big deal if he hadn't just spent the last three weekends with friends while leaving me to hold down the fort, with HIS three kids. He went to a friend's bday party, got drunk and didn't come home last Friday. Spent the previous Saturday at a friend's while I was home with all of his kids.
We're both busy with work, life, kids, etc. I am working while he goes to school full time, I'm making many sacrifices such as putting my degree on hold while he finishes his, I'm working full time and paying the majority of the bills. Some respect and consideration would be nice but he feels that his individual desires come before our relationship.
So, I changed the locks and packed his fucking clothes and some toiletries and put them outside. FUCKER. I'm going to look at an apartment tomorrow, this is the second I've looked at. I'm not a fucking door mat. You want to do what you want when you want? Then BE SINGLE.
EDIT: Sorry I wasn't more clear about the kids. He has four; one lives with us. I have three; one lives with us. Five are here EOW and I am mostly responsible for his three kids, and mine of course when they're here. He is usually at school or work when they come over.
When he's not working/at school he likes to be social and be with friends occasionally, but enough to be a problem. We will do things as a family occasionally but sometimes he'll trump our plans to be with friends.