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I am a welfare queen?

Posted by on Apr. 20, 2014 at 8:36 PM
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I just had the worst experience with this site! I just joined CafeMom a few days ago and was completely in love with everything about it. I've needed this since before my son was born 9 months ago.

But last night I commented on a topic (that was probably way over my mild-tempered manner) about government assistance. My post was simply an "I'm confused about the topic, but this is my situation..." kinda thing and I got totally BASHED! An anonymous person called me a 'welfare queen' and continued to insult me without even giving me the chance to defend myself. 

I'm taken aback by this exchange because I had an amazing introduction to the site! I am completely open-minded and interested in hearing other women's stories, so that was out of left field to not get the same response when I had days before.

Has anyone else dealt with such bullying on CafeMom? :-(

by on Apr. 20, 2014 at 8:36 PM
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Anonymous
by Anonymous 1 on Apr. 20, 2014 at 8:48 PM
Yes and yes and yes.

Quoting Mom.Of.Two.2:

I just had the worst experience with this site! I just joined CafeMom a few days ago and was completely in love with everything about it. I've needed this since before my son was born 9 months ago.

But last night I commented on a topic (that was probably way over my mild-tempered manner) about government assistance. My post was simply an "I'm confused about the topic, but this is my situation..." kinda thing and I got totally BASHED! An anonymous person called me a 'welfare queen' and continued to insult me without even giving me the chance to defend myself. 

I'm taken aback by this exchange because I had an amazing introduction to the site! I am completely open-minded and interested in hearing other women's stories, so that was out of left field to not get the same response when I had days before.

Has anyone else dealt with such bullying on CafeMom? :-(

NDADanceMom
by on Apr. 20, 2014 at 8:48 PM
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Its hard to tell based on what you wrote here.  If you have kids while on welfare I do consider that part of being a welfare queen.  I feel like while you are on welfare you should be doing things to make your life better like getting a job, training, finding a stable home, etc.  You should not be having kids, getting credit cards, buying an expensive car.... 

mhaney03
by Member on Apr. 20, 2014 at 8:51 PM
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Oh yeah, my children have been insulted and even threatened on this site.  just let it roll off your back and look for the non bitchy groups on here, there are a few.

notjstasocermom
by Bronze Member on Apr. 20, 2014 at 8:51 PM
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Are they right?

offrdngal
by Bronze Member on Apr. 20, 2014 at 8:52 PM
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You just have to find the right groups. Don't let a few rude women ruin this site, for you.
Mom.Of.Two.2
by Member on Apr. 20, 2014 at 8:53 PM

Your children have been insulted and THREATENED???? omg... 

Thanks for the advice! I was so disappointed about that.

Quoting mhaney03:

Oh yeah, my children have been insulted and even threatened on this site.  just let it roll off your back and look for the non bitchy groups on here, there are a few.


mhaney03
by Member on Apr. 20, 2014 at 8:54 PM

 friend me, i'll send you a link to one great one.

Quoting Mom.Of.Two.2:

Your children have been insulted and THREATENED???? omg... 

Thanks for the advice! I was so disappointed about that.

Quoting mhaney03:

Oh yeah, my children have been insulted and even threatened on this site.  just let it roll off your back and look for the non bitchy groups on here, there are a few.

 

 

Mom.Of.Two.2
by Member on Apr. 20, 2014 at 8:55 PM

I get what you're saying. I would never be able to live with myself if I was buying myself toys and vacations and abusing the government for programs that are designed to help people in need. That wasn't the situation where I felt attacked.

I was hoping the focus of my post would be about bullying on CafeMom. Have you ever felt bullied on here?

Quoting NDADanceMom:

Its hard to tell based on what you wrote here.  If you have kids while on welfare I do consider that part of being a welfare queen.  I feel like while you are on welfare you should be doing things to make your life better like getting a job, training, finding a stable home, etc.  You should not be having kids, getting credit cards, buying an expensive car.... 


FitMom479
by Member on Apr. 20, 2014 at 8:55 PM
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The venting booth has a lot of bashing in it...are you expecting? If so, have you become part of a due date group? I LOVEEEE my due date group. They are all soooo wonderful and I haven't seen one negative post or comment in any of the threads! It really is all about finding the right groups. Hang in there momma. People tend to act tough behind a keyboard. Don't let that get you down!

JakobsMom03
by on Apr. 20, 2014 at 8:56 PM
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It's pretty much status quo. There's great people too, but the bullying and bashing is very common. Sorry you got treated like that though.

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