Idk if anyone I know is on CM but I'm going to openly share my dilemma. My beautiful 15yr old niece took her life in January. I am devastated, especially because the relationship with my sister is civil at best and the relationship with my nieces suffered. I was also unable to travel to the funeral because I was almost nine months pregnant. Beyond that though, I currently live away from family as does my sister and my mother and uncle are sort of the care providers for my grandmother. Recently before my niece's death my grandmother had knee surgery and before that was diagnosed with early stages of Alzheimer's. She is also on medications for blood pressure and depression I believe. Well, for these reasons my mother and my uncle decided to tell gma that my neice died of her somewhat recently diagnosed seizures. I must include here the seizures were few and identified as stress related but there were a couple rough episodes that were scary. To continue from before, I made it known I did not agree with their decision to cover up the suicide. My mom and uncle reassured me that my sister would be visiting sometime after the funeral and they'll all break the news to gma. Ok, this makes sense to me I understand. Sometime has passed, my sister did come by a neighbouring popular city that in-laws of hers insisted she take a little getaway with her DH and younger daughter so they could reconnect. But there was no family sit down and my gma is still in the dark. So long story longer, I'm on the phone with my gma talking reminiscing and we talk about the beautiful girl we lost and she says to me..those horrible doctors didn't even suggest new treatment for her..I learned about new cases where children with seizures are being treated with marijuana with great results and cures...she goes on to say that she knows it's not legal in our state but that the parents would have done anything for their daughter had they known about a treatment. .. this kills me I didn't know what to do or say I couldn't lie about this. I've told my family they need to tell her the truth I won't lie to her. My uncle says no it's not time this will literally kill her. I don't buy it. My mother has told me to butt out and that I'm making things worse. Everyone she knows is hiding the truth about what happened. Am I crazy?
Thanks for reading. .needed to get this out somewhere. .
on Apr. 21, 2014 at 4:50 AM