Alright so my SO and my parents do not get along. I get it, no love lost. It came to a head when my parents said that SO was not allowed around them. SO said that was fine with him. Now fast forward eight years and it is the same ole same ole.
SO does not go with me if there is a family thing at my parents house: holidays, birthdays, or whatever. Well SO's son, who has lived with me since he was nine, is now in college and lives on campus. For me he is my son, his mom is not involved at all. Before he was here all the time and his dad's mom lived right next door. So we had separate holidays. Last year SO's mom passed away. SO's son went to school and comes home on holidays. I do not want to leave him and SO here on their own on a holiday.I enjoy going to my parents to visit with my family on holidays too. So what is a good solution since they don't want SO there? Split the holidays.
Because I was not coming up on Easter my dad calls the day before wanting to talk to my kids 17 and 15. They were at their dad's house so I asked him what was up. He says to have them call him. He just wants them to know they are welcome up there any time they want to come. WTF? Am I wrong or is this some attempt to tell my kids, in a round about way, that they love them and are sorry that their mom would not bring them over on a holiday which adds a bit of guilt in there if the kids dont want to go. That sounds kind of like emotional blackmail to me. Because I did not have the kids call them back they are now trying to tell me that I am just trying to keep the kids away from them. I said that was not my intention but they are not going to get to paint me as a bad guy to my kids because I didn't do exactly what they wanted. It has been a big blow up and I don't know what the heck to do now.
Am I over reacting? Are they crossing over boundries?