warning: long post.
Ok, so this has a lot of back story to it. My Dh is currently unemployed, he starts a new job next week but obviously is not making money yet. As of right now, I am the sole financial provider. So his DD lives with us full time. Shes 5. She hasnt seen BM in about a month. BM makes no effort to see her. Here is my frustration. Currently, I am the sole finanical provider for SD. I pay the rent, buy her clothes, whatever. DH does most of the caretaking since he is currently not working, However, BM still has DD on her foodstamps. She gets $500 a month for her and her two kids, yet she has neither of them. She also gets $180/ month from families first. This month, which is the first time ever, we asked her if we could use her foodstamps only because we are in a bad situation and we really needed them to feed my SD. she made a big deal out of it. she left us $70 to use out of $500 and she got them a week ago. She doesnt make any effort to be a mother. But she always wants to say " my child this, my child that" and its always" MY daughter". My frustration is that I am fully raising/ supporting SD, which is fine, I love her, but I have NO legal rights to her. What can I do to change that, so that I have some sort of say in things? My concern is that BM can come take her whenever she wants and theres nothing I can do. I have been with this child and cared for her 24/7 for the last 6 months, and at this point I feel that I am more of a parent than BM. advice please.
if youre just gonna be rude, kindly refrain from commenting. just want advice.