Every thing I do for dh is stressful. I handle all bills, taxes, planning, the entire custody fight for his son and everything related to both kids (our 10.5 month old daughter and his 10 yr old son who I have been raising since he was 4). A promotion has come open at work and it would be an extra $20,000 a year! I have been bugging him to throw his hat in the ring because not only do we NEED that money, but he truly is the best man for the job. I believe he would make wonderfully positive changes in the company and be a beloved and respected boss. He says that it would be a lot of stress. I deal with a tremendous amount of stress due to handling everything I do for him. The custody fight for his son not only cost me over $30,000 and my car, it has also taken years off of my life. Those years fighting such a horrible monster who just wanted to fight us not actually to have the child, were the most horrible and traumatic years of my life. We fought for 3 years only for the BM to not make any attempt to contact him or see him since. Like his BM, SS is bipolar and has other mental problems requiring hospitalization as well as countless hours spent in doctor's offices. I never once complained about any of this stress. If he gets this promotion, I could get a vehicle and won't be stuck in the house all the time. I would like to have another baby in 2016. Not to mention, we could save up to get our own house as we've had to live with my mom due to the financial toll the custody battle and medical bills cost us. It doesn't sound like he is really going to lobby for the job because of the stress. Why is it OK for me to live with the constant stress I do but he can't have a little more stress at work? The stress of being with him caused me to even stop ovulating for a long time. It was a surprise I even got pregnant. I really get so tired of this marriage being a one way street. I am always the only to make any sacrifices. I try every day to make sure he has a wonderful life while he can't even get me a cake on my birthday. My birthday always falls around mother's day and the past 2 years in a row when then should have been big deals because I was pregnant and then had the baby I didn't even get a card. I make every day special for him and his birthday, Christmas, and father's day are always amazing. It really hurts being the one who suffers the most and gets the least.
on Jul. 16, 2014 at 4:03 PM