I hate it - absolutely HATE it - when someone posts a problem looking for advice or even perspective and a first response by someone is "get counselling".
Why do I hate it? Oh, let me count the ways!
First of all, if counselling were something this person was comfortable with, they'd be doing it and not bothering in CM.
Second, some counsellors really suck...been there, had that.
Third, counsellors cost money and how much depends on your health insurance, if it covers it.
Fourth - and mostly why - is that suggesting counselling is just a cop-out. If you don't have any good advice, or a helpful comment, then leave the page.
Now, some people might need a little push to GET counselling, you may think. Personally, I think most counsellors are very ineffective. The most effective ones are the ones that let you ramble and don't talk. IN that case, you solve your own problems by thinking it through. If you can do that to a guy or gal sitting across from you with a pad of paper and pen, acting like they're listening - then you can get the same self-help affect by writing on CM. Or in a journal. Or talking to a best friend, for that matter.