How to help her slim down without making her feel bad.
Not really a vent - but I do need some advice.
I have an 11 year old DD. She's always been tall for her age and has always had a thick body type - solid legs, a larger butt, a smaller waist. Really, she's build a lot like me and a lot like one of her aunts. I used to refer to her as my amazon. Now that she's hitting puberty, she's not only starting to develop breasts - but she is also getting a bit of a belly and her legs are getting thicker. She's already 5'6" (my height - and the only other direct female relatives she has are 5'2", 5'8", and 5'11). She is currently wearing a size large in juniors in shirts and dresses and a size 11 or 11/13 in shorts/pants (though she has some 9s that still fit).
She LOVES to eat - and she doesn't like to exercise - asking her to take a walk with me is like asking her to cut off her pinky finger. She is involved in sports seasonally, but there are large gaps of time in between seasons where she is a lot less active.
I really struggled with my weight when I was her age and heading into middle school - I was teased because of it (though looking back, I wasn't really 'fat' - never had much of a belly - but I was thick and bigger than the normal middle school girl. Being teased gave me a horrible self-esteem which just turned into bad choices. I've still stuggled with my weight - I wear a size 12 or 14 now, and have to really monitor myself to stay there!
I don't want her to have to deal with what it is like to be a "big girl" in middle school and high school. I never felt good enough. I couldn't just go to the mall and pick out clothes with my other friends - I couldnt go to the pool without constantly feeling uncomfortable. To make matters worse, my sister (1 year older than me) was naturally petite - 5'2" and a size 2 - or a 4 if she was having a bad few months...and she didn't even have to work for it. (Much like my SD who is 2 mths younger than my DD and still wearing a girls size 10 and has junior size 0 fall off of her.)
How do I help my daughter to lose weight and be active without hurting her feelings? If someone approached me and said, I'm afraid you're getting too big - lets do something about it, I'd be crushed. I had a friend whose mother was obsessed with keeping her thin (and it didn't work) and she'd have to go to nutritionists and get lectures EVERY time she ate food...she hated it! My mother never said anything - and I wish she had....
Anyone else have to have that conversation with their daughter? What do I even say? (I know she's already sensitive to weight comments - she has a 12 year old brother that has made comments and I'm sure other people have as well)