having a hard time to cope. don't no what to do? I'm brand new to this.
I've had a rough 6 years of my life. I don't no if I am mentally capable of changing my life style or am I in need of Phycological assistance.
I am with my fiance for quite a while now. And when I went into the relationship I knew he had a daughter with a mother women. It didn't bother me at first. But I noticed her mother was very mentally unstable. She would throw fits and blame everyone for her anger and taking it out on her kids. Especially the daughter that my fiance and her share together. As the years went by the little girl was affected by her mothers behavior, and became a self spoiled little brat. I see that my fiance has a hard time controlling her behavior. And decides to let her be. But I can't stand the way that little girl is trying to run her fathers life. And my fiance wants me to take over and help out when sue has her tantrums. I've been in this little girls life since she was a baby. And it was my fault for not spending time with her as much as I should of. But I had my own problems to take care of. And my fiance never seemed to mind.
Now as he has a hard time with her. He wants me to take control.
So when I try and teach this poor girl manners and how to respect adults. She hits and Sasses me. And I tell her that that's not appropriate my fiance snaps at me stating that I shouldn't talk to her that way and I shouldn't be doing that...
As I am pregnant with his child. I fear of my son going to end up like his daughter and when I try to raise him in a respectful home that my fiance has a different parenting plan and let him do what he wants. And let his daughter bull him.
My fiance fight all the time and we want to separate but it never happened. And we are okay for a while. And these fights happen again.
But they only occur when he's daughter is over on the weekends. I don't look forward to it and I don't want to be around her.
I tell him how I feel about the situation. And how I feel that he wants me to do things but I get shit on for doing them.
Every time that little girls around I feel neglected and alienated.
He spends every dime we have on her because she whines and Cry's if we don't do so. He gives in and I tell him we can't afford for all this goodies he's giving her.
Were on a tight budget and with the baby on the way how can we afford this?
I'm stressing out. I don't no how to handle this.
Oh we are a big enough age gape. I'm 23 and he's 32..