Bash Away I Don't Care I Am So Upset And Hurt By This!
I like doing "firsts" with my kids, as many as I can experience, which, unfortunately, haven't been very many because of my mother. When I had my son I was a working single mom and because I felt guilty for feeling sadness and jealousy when my mom would experience first moments with him, but I was still appreciative that someone else loved my son so much that they would take him to experience these things - first haircut, first trip to our local amusement park, first trip to the local fair, etc. I rarely would say anything, but I did speak up about the hair cut. Her response? "Oh get over it, he needed it done so I took him. There will be other firsts." So I left it alone.
Now I'm a SAHM and she wants to be a part of things, which I openly let her, but she takes over everything. OR she'll do something like take just my son for 2 overnights the last two nights before school starts-which she did 2 days ago, asked on the spot in front of my son and my kid loves her, which is good, but there was no saying no to it because he was so excited- and take him to see a movie she knew my husband and I were planning on taking him to - we've only been unable because he was called in to work mandatory 12 hour days 7 days a week for the next 3 weeks and the movie hasn't been out long .
ANYWAY, she wanted to meet us at the bus stop this morning since it's my son's first day of kindergarten. It's a big deal to me, especially since he was taking the bus. I was up and down all night being a huge sap and crying over the fact my boy isn't so little anymore and pretty soon he'll be too cool for me, etc. He's PM - they only offer half days in our district - and I guess the only on who rides at that time. The bus was a little late, but at 2 minutes my mom starts freaking out. I said I would just call the school and make sure I didn't misunderstand things - since I was being accused of screwing it up - and my mom, who has a way of making people do what she wants, yelled at me to take my daughter and walk back to the house to get the car, etc. SHE would wait with my son. I attempted to protest so she yelled and said I was going to make my son late for his first day good job etc. As soon as I got to the car and had the school on the phone confirming the bus should be there any moment, I saw it pull up at the bus stop. I raced over with my van, but my mom was already putting my son on the bus. I bit my tongue to hold back tears as she got in the car - we were supposed to drive up there and take pictures. My son wanted to ride the bus that's why we didn't just drive him up there. We got there, but the bus wasn't there, so she starts freaking out acting like terrorists took him - no joke - demands I drive her back to her car, she gets in and speeds off. What the hell. I call the school, they confirm the bus got there, I call mom and she yells at me, irritated that I was interrupting her picture taking.
I went off.
I don't care how petty it sounds, I NEEDED those special moments with my son. I don't mind if she is there, but I AM HIS MOTHER, I wanted to be the one who was there for him and she bullied me out of it and I'm tired of it! I told her she needed to respect my relationship with my son and not control these experiences or shove me out of them. Her response? "Oh whatever, I was helping you're ungrateful, trust me I won't be around ANYMORE!" etc.
Am I being ridiculous? I don't care.