Ok, so my dh have been married for 23 years. I really think my dh is on the Autistic spectrum. We have 3 kids. 21 has Aspergers and UC, 20 had a TBI when he was 14, doing great but both of them have extra needs. 14 yr old is freshman this year. We moved to KY last year from MI. MY dh hated his job and looked for another one here but couldnt find one and he is still wanting to move back to MI. He just took a job in MI, doesn't have start date yet but planning on leaving today or tomorrow with our oldest son. We still have our house in MI, (he decided he didn't want to sell which has put a financial strain on us here, we own it but were suppose to pay off vehicles with sale of money or buy a cheaper house here. All the way up to and past closing he said we were selling) OK, our oldest son doesn't drive and barely leaves the house. What he thinks he will do in MI, idk. I'm hoping he surprises us all and with the help of some friends will help him transition into a job and driving, but he can't live here bc he is rude and thinks he is my dh ordering me around, (dh says nothing to him) and he doesn't help out. So I feel guilty bc I love my dh and my son but they have pissed me off to the point where I am happy to see them go. I want to cry just saying that. My daughter and I love it here and my other son with previous TBI is online schooling and graduates this year. We are purposefully seperating our family. My dh isnt even going to be living with our son in MI, he will stay with his parents as it is closer to this new job. He thinks spending weekends with him at our house will be enough to help him. Idk. My husband also drinks too much and while he is not an angry drunk, he drinks enough to be called one. I don't know how he functions. From the time he gets home he has 2-3 glasses of whiskey and 3-4 beers every night. This just started when he took the job down here but I think it is habit now. Hopefully I am wrong. So I feel guilty for looking forward to them going to Mi and us staying here for the next year and then we will evaluate whether he comes back down here and finds a job or we move back. :( Having 3 men in my life with special needs is wearing on me and I need to raise my daughter still. Sorry it is so long just needed to put it in words.