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Worst invention ever!!

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My husband got the smart phone or iphone or whatever the hell you call it. Basically it has internet on it, and games and so on, it's a touch screen phone. An expensive phone. One that I could have gotten previously, but didn't, out of respect for others and respect for our limited budget (I'm an out of work teacher and a temporarily stay at home mom until my youngest is in elementary school full time)  since my husband works to support us. I needed a new phone months ago, so I go to the phone store and get the cheapest model there is, basically the same one as my old (5 year old) broken phone, that ended up being free after the rebate. we move into a new house, amongst lectures on how much we have to "save money" and "stop wasting money" which I don't - I buy groceries and necessities for the house and family. Yet a week after we move in, he comes home with a fancy new phone that will "only cost a few more dollars a month" and it's not a big deal, because he says that I (meaning me) can use the memory too. Well, I can't because mine is a dinosaur phone!

My issue is more than for one reason!! One: my kids are obsessed with playing the stupid games on it, like seriously. This is the one thing they argue over, constantly. Whose turn it is to play daddys phone, how long the other person has been playing, etc. it is driving me crazy!! We do NOT have electronic games/toys in the house for a reason!  Two: it is NOT more than a few dollars a month, our bill has been at least $30 more a month due to the amount he uses the internet at work. It is free when he uses it at home because of the wifi (or if the girls use it here). And finally, he used to call me every day at lunch to chat and see how my day was going, how the kids are doing, do I need anything, etc. now he's too busy, and his day gets away from him.

Recently my kids have gone to use it and pulled up the history and found all sorts of porn and craigslist postings that he's looking at during work. They have even seen pictures of things that are HIGHLY inappropriate, and I've told him this. I've even said, no more using Daddy's phone, but he says they can. I told him, that with what he uses it for, they no longer are allowed to. I don't care that he's looking at it per se, I'm more hurt that he's lying saying he's too busy to talk and that the fact that he knows the kids use his phone, and is subjecting a 3 and 6 year old to this trash. Lately he's been coming home from work saying how horny he is, now I know why. Tell me that wouldn't hurt your feelings, huh? He even sits on the couch and watches his sports and other stupid shows while he "surfs the web" and is always looking at my facebook and other social media accounts asking me 20 questions. What was that post about? Who were you talking about? What did you mean?  I feel like I have nothing left!!

Posted by Anonymous on Oct. 15, 2014 at 10:39 PM
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GirlWithANikon
by Member on Oct. 15, 2014 at 10:44 PM
Wow all this over you guys first exposure to electronics , huh? First off just tell the girls no. It doesn't matter how long so and so has been on daddy's phone its daddy's phone its not a toy, the END! No more games, delete them. Obsession gone. Call him at work, flat out tell him, hey port isn't busy let's talk today and tomorrow you can look at porn it's called a compromise.
Anonymous
by Anonymous 2 on Oct. 16, 2014 at 1:08 AM
I have had a similar problem with my other half. Electronics and technology are literally evil. Me and my hubby wouldn't have had half the problems if it weren't for social media and Internet. I will tell you how I handled my situation and maybe it will help.
Your husband may be king di*k breadwinner right now but that is no reason for you to have to feel like your being controlled and feel like you have nothing left. He may be the head but you are the neck. With out you, the household would go to hell in a hand basket.
My kids know that when mommy says no it's no... Don't go asking daddy cause the answer is still no and he will not undermine me. My kids are not allowed to play with his phone or mine. We give them something else to focus on. And since we have phones that do neat things that kids think is awesome, my kids are allowed to have their games on Xbox and the wii BUT they also know it's limited, not an everyday thing. It takes the kids focus off the awesome phone daddy has cause they have something awesome too. If you don't want them playing video games try to find something else to get their attention on something else.
Now the porn thing. I for one am not a fan of porn, especially when you have someone, there is no need for porn. I found out quite a few times my hubby has looked at porn at work and at home ect... Cause I myself found it on his phone. I explained to him how I felt about it, how it made me feel. I didn't yell but I wasn't being soft either. I was quite firm about it. The last time I caught him was when he was at work and I flat out used my vagina powers and told him if he is not satisfied with just me, that he has to look at that crap to get in the mood then there is a big problem we need to address and if we don't then no more intimacy from me. I was dead serious tho, it wasn't an empty threat.
I don't know if you will agree with how I handled my situation but it's another perspective.
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