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My Husband No Longer Wants Me...

Anonymous
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My husband seems to be interested in having sex, but then when we start getting down to business, suddenly he just doesn't want me anymore.  He doesn't have ED or any issues down there but I'd feel a million times better if he did.  I feel so rejected.  He is interested in anal but I've told him the idea completely turns me off.  Not only is it gross and unsanitary to me, but also quite painful.  So I guess if he can't do that he doesn't want anything.  Maybe he wants a hooker or a man? 

Posted by Anonymous on May. 5, 2015 at 11:19 AM
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Anonymous
by Anonymous 2 on May. 5, 2015 at 11:21 AM
Maybe he's just looking to change things up, try new things that would turn you on.
thebride
by Member on May. 5, 2015 at 11:50 AM

maybe he's bored. 

Anonymous
by Anonymous 3 on May. 5, 2015 at 11:51 AM

Does he watch alot of porn? 

He could be a porn addict 

moekeyes
by on May. 5, 2015 at 12:57 PM

was he like that before or after many years married? to me if you dont want to he should not force you, but you need to talk to him because it not fair to just stop any sex??

Anonymous
by Anonymous 4 on May. 5, 2015 at 1:44 PM
Try Anal... It is all those things you just said, but it feels so freaking good
Pagan_Mommy84
by Member on May. 5, 2015 at 9:26 PM

I'm not saying what he's doing is right by any means, because he should try to work through things...not just cut you off like that.  However, I agree with thebride, or at least the posibility that he may just be bored.  My suggestion is to try something a little different.  It doesn't have to be anything way out there or anything like that, it can be something as simple as getting a costume, like a french maid or bar maid costume.  Maybe a dirty school girl costume ... and do your hair/make up to match :) If something different doesn't work, sit down with him and tell him all the reasons that you aren't comfortable with anal, even if you've told him 100 times over already.  But then, tell him that you want to talk about other things that he may want to try and see if you guys can find a handful of things to try that you both are comfortable with.  And don't get me wrong, I'm not saying that you should take but not give, even if it's something that isn't yoru cup of tea, but something that doesn't disguist you either ... it wouldn't hurt to do something different that he's interested in from time to time, and vice versa


Quoting thebride:

maybe he's bored. 


astheworldspins
by Bronze Member on May. 5, 2015 at 9:38 PM
Liking anal doesn't mean he's gay. That's ridiculous. He just wants to try something new. He wants to spice things up which is completely normal.
Anonymous
by Anonymous 1 - Original Poster on May. 5, 2015 at 10:09 PM

I did try anal a couple of years ago, even though the whole idea turned me off and it was entirely painful and gross...but I wanted to make him happy.  So I took it up the poop shoot painfully and bled afterwards.  He knows it hurts and disgusts me already.  But yet he still wants me to do it.  Sounds like the general consensus is: make him happy at all costs and screw how I feel.  My pain and health don't matter I guess, which is the traditional message presented by this screwy society...take the trashiest most unpleasant, unhealthy, painful path if you are the woman as long as the man is happy.  In my opinion, relationships should go both ways and nurture the needs of both partners (hence the term, "partners").  To answer someone's question...yes he watches porn.  He won't admit it but I've seen his internet history which leads to websites with pics of 16-year old girls doing disgusting things.  Mind you he just turned 40 so he is I guess losing his mind now going through some sort of crisis.  Poor him....I know...he is so bored!!  Even if I did agree to anal, (aka being impaled in the ass), I still wouldn't fit his requisite for enjoyable intimacy as at a few years younger than him, I'm still 20 years older than the teenaged girls who are clearly the object of his desires.  God help me if we ever hire a 16-year old girl to babysit.  Maybe I should just suggest shoving a large strap-on up his butt and see how he likes it... 

I've tried other things like costumes, etc to spice up his need to pretend he's having sex with someone else, but it doesn't "do it" for him.  Probably for the reasons I've cited above...mainly, his 36 year-old wife doesn't do it for him anymore.  He wants a junior in high school.

proudmother5946
by Bronze Member on May. 6, 2015 at 3:59 AM
Don't do something that makes you uncomfortable. He knows that it's painful for you. I find it disturbing that he's insisting on it. He's acting like a spoiled little boy. You won't give him what he "wants" so now he's punishing you.
kelly5678
by Member on May. 6, 2015 at 8:46 AM

The strap on sounds like a great idea, I would definetly do that. If he likes anal, why not go both ways? And as it seems for the man is supposed to be really good as it stimulates their prostate and everything, so here's a bit of spicing up the sex life.

About the young girls, I don't know, I guess most porn is with girls that look 16... maybe he is having a middle age crisis, is born and feels like there's not enough adventure in his life. If I were you, I'd invite him to a home movie night and watch some porn (my choice of movie and he wouldn't be allowed to touch before the movie is over), I'd text him naughty stuff while he's away and play all innocent and like it wasn't me when he's home and I'd invest in a strap-on.

Good luck and hugs.

p.s. It's not you, it's him. 36 is not old by far.

Quoting Anonymous 1:

I did try anal a couple of years ago, even though the whole idea turned me off and it was entirely painful and gross...but I wanted to make him happy.  So I took it up the poop shoot painfully and bled afterwards.  He knows it hurts and disgusts me already.  But yet he still wants me to do it.  Sounds like the general consensus is: make him happy at all costs and screw how I feel.  My pain and health don't matter I guess, which is the traditional message presented by this screwy society...take the trashiest most unpleasant, unhealthy, painful path if you are the woman as long as the man is happy.  In my opinion, relationships should go both ways and nurture the needs of both partners (hence the term, "partners").  To answer someone's question...yes he watches porn.  He won't admit it but I've seen his internet history which leads to websites with pics of 16-year old girls doing disgusting things.  Mind you he just turned 40 so he is I guess losing his mind now going through some sort of crisis.  Poor him....I know...he is so bored!!  Even if I did agree to anal, (aka being impaled in the ass), I still wouldn't fit his requisite for enjoyable intimacy as at a few years younger than him, I'm still 20 years older than the teenaged girls who are clearly the object of his desires.  God help me if we ever hire a 16-year old girl to babysit.  Maybe I should just suggest shoving a large strap-on up his butt and see how he likes it... 

I've tried other things like costumes, etc to spice up his need to pretend he's having sex with someone else, but it doesn't "do it" for him.  Probably for the reasons I've cited above...mainly, his 36 year-old wife doesn't do it for him anymore.  He wants a junior in high school.


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