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I hate being a mother!

Posted by on Oct. 23, 2017 at 8:28 PM
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I have PPD so bad right now. I love my kids, but I hate being a mother right now. I have a therapist that I see and she said I needed to get out a couple of days a week for an hour or two when my husband is off from work so I can keep my sanity. Unfortunately that is not an option for me right now and I don't know if it ever will be.

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Anonymous
by Anonymous 1 on Oct. 23, 2017 at 8:31 PM
Have you thought about having a date night scheduled with DH, or having the kids go to bed..and you guys have some you time? Have you talked to him about your feelings?
amonkeymom
by Gold Member on Oct. 23, 2017 at 8:32 PM

What about asking a friend to watch your kids for an hour or so so that you can get out and get a manicure or do some grocery shopping without the kids?

Majesticflute84
by New Member on Oct. 23, 2017 at 8:44 PM
I have and he says he'd love too and he understands but he's too busy at work that he just needs to focus on that and nothing else for a while.

Quoting Anonymous 1: Have you thought about having a date night scheduled with DH, or having the kids go to bed..and you guys have some you time? Have you talked to him about your feelings?
Majesticflute84
by New Member on Oct. 23, 2017 at 8:45 PM
I wish but they all live crazy far away.

Quoting amonkeymom:

What about asking a friend to watch your kids for an hour or so so that you can get out and get a manicure or do some grocery shopping without the kids?

Anonymous
by Anonymous 1 on Oct. 23, 2017 at 8:50 PM
Quoting Majesticflute84: I have and he says he'd love too and he understands but he's too busy at work that he just needs to focus on that and nothing else for a while.

Quoting Anonymous 1: Have you thought about having a date night scheduled with DH, or having the kids go to bed..and you guys have some you time? Have you talked to him about your feelings?


http://www.allprodad.com/10-ways-to-balance-work-and-family-life/

I can't make the link work..but hold on..will post something you can copy and paste..or just read to him. My husband was the same way and he finally had to realize that he need to step up before I gave up...literally.
Anonymous
by Anonymous 1 on Oct. 23, 2017 at 8:51 PM
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10 Ways to Balance Work and Family Life


If you’re a manager, one of the best ways to increase the productivity of your workforce is make the employees’ home environment as happy as possible. Study after study shows when people have stable and thriving families, they’re much more creative, energetic, and dependable at work. You’ll be amazed at the change in your company culture if you incorporate just a few family friendly guidelines. When employees know you care about them, they’ll work hard for you, be ethical, and be loyal.

So how do you do this? Start simply:

Encourage men to send flowers to their wives.
Advocate occasional outings for employees to have lunch with their children at school.
Keep a small library of family help books and videos in the company breakroom.
Hold an annual company picnic for employees and their families.
Let your employees know you care about their families and have an open door policy to be available to listen.
Encourage them to sign-up for this email, the Play of the Day or iMOM’s Espresso Minute.
Forward the following 10 ways to balance work and family life list to your fathers and encourage your mothers to visit iMOM.com.
1. Calendar Your Kids
We are all busy. Parents. Kids. This place. That place. Make sure to schedule specific time that is just for your children. Calendar them in so that the time is blocked and doesn’t slip your mind.

2. Equal Passion
Most men work very hard at their job. It’s a matter of pride. Do you give the same passion to your family? The most important work you will ever have is being a father and husband. Try to prioritize your life in such a way that your daily amount of passion is divided appropriately.

3. Core Values
No man can have it all. Accept it. Coach Tony Dungy speaks often about a man’s core values. Seriously consider the things that are most important to you and let them be your guide. In his book Uncommon, Coach Dungy refers to this as “finding our landmarks.” When you get lost, those landmarks will guide you back safely to where you belong.

4. Lighten Up
From the same book, Coach Dungy also asks the question, “Are you ever silly around your kids?” Life is serious business. Yet, we must be able to relax enough to find joy as well. One should never totally lose the spirit of the child we once were. Relax and smile. Splashing around in a few puddles never hurt anybody either.

5. Spread It Around
Most people take too much upon their shoulders. Success is usually brought about from excellent teamwork. Don’t be a ball hog. Kobe Bryant spent several seasons frustrated by not winning championships. Then he learned to start trusting his teammates and another Lakers championship was brought home. Trust the people you work with. Trust your family and your friends. By sharing your duties with those so eager to help, you create more time for the things most important.

6. Get A Tune-Up
Your car requires periodic service to keep it performing at maximum level. So does your life. Over time our lives become clogged with unnecessary time consumers. Optimize your own engine by cleaning out the things that are needlessly wasting your time. Take a look at your personal habits and how you spend each minute of your day. Rid yourself of the needless waste.

7. The Babysitter
Build yourself a network of reliable and trustworthy caretakers for your children. So many marriages are drowned in a sea of neglect. A healthy relationship requires attention and work just like anything else in life. This requires time alone. When you find a good babysitter, treat them right and pay them well. They are invaluable to the corporation you call the family.

8. The Outlet
A lot of men play golf. Basketball is always popular. Flag football leagues for men are sprouting up all over. Why? We need an outlet. Maybe it’s hiking. Fishing. Hundreds of possible ways exist for you to escape your day to day. To just be you. This is mentally healthy as long as you keep it in a proper perspective.

9. Be Flexible
We all have our ideals of exactly how we want things to be. Sticking too rigidly to those ideals, however, can create undue stress. Life comes fast and hard and it’s important to be flexible in how you deal with it. Adapt and improvise. It’s not just for the military.

10. Live a Purpose Driven life
As you are created in God’s image, discover your purpose in life. We all have special gifts and traits. Learning who you are and why you are here clears so much confusion. Zero in on your true purpose and your life will follow suit.
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