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My fiance who i have been with for 8 years who has been the father figure to my kids, thinks because he is the “father” his rules should be. My 17 year old daughter will be getting an iphone well he seems to think that if he does not have passwords to her social medias then she can’t have one. He is afraid she will talk to my family who almost got him put in jail for several years. As of right now he checks up on our phone records watches when i’m on facebook blew up when he found out we have a snapchat. I’m beginning to think he does not want us to have interaction with others. I’m starting to feel like its all about him. We just got a new neighbor and he already said if its a single guy he’s gonna have to worry. I feel like i can’t do anything cause if someone makes a comment then it turns into a big fight.
by on Nov. 29, 2017 at 8:04 AM
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Anonymous
by Anonymous 15 on Dec. 7, 2017 at 5:47 PM
So you didn't know for yourself if this is overly controlling? You know the answer. Why would you put up with this? What's the pay off?
kika.fleur
by Member on Dec. 7, 2017 at 7:31 PM

This:
"It never went to trial the prosecutors said something might have happened but they can’t say for sure they dis not want to put her on the stand and have him found innocent but yet CPS and the forensic interview said positive something happened"

would have been enough to kick him onto the kerb. They often don't arrest or prosecute because there might not be enough evidence later on to ensure that they will win. It doesn't mean that the alleged perpetrator didn't do anything and is innocent.

Honestly, you've got to start being on your daughter's side. 

Quoting hardworker694: I’m not sure what to think he was never charged and passed two lie detector test. It never went to trial the prosecutors said something might have happened but they can’t say for sure they dis not want to put her on the stand and have him found innocent but yet CPS and the forensic interview said positive something happened but then why did they not charge him or arrest him. I look back now and he has always been controlling i guess i never really seen it as that but now its worse cause he does not want us to have contact with certain people. My family was very involved in the whole situations. I have a few other post about it. He is afraid if the family is back in the picture they might try to pull something else.
Quoting kika.fleur:

So:do you think she lied because he's controlling orhe was really abusive and he's controlling because he doesn't want anyone to know about the extent of the abuse?

Quoting hardworker694: My 18 year old accused him of sexually assulting her when she 15-16. He was never charged the prosecuting attorney said something might have happenrd but they are not totally sure. I think it was a way to grt him out of the house because he was a bit controlling back then. She was not allowed to do a whole lot she became rebellious started sneaking phones. She did not hang out with a whole lot of friends cause he did not like them he would look people up on face book. When i finally got her a phone he limited her text messages and watch all activty she was not to erase any messages. She was limited on social media as well.
Quoting othermom:

How did they almost get him put in jail?  I have my kids passwords to their accounts, I told them that is a rule to them having them.



hardworker694
by Member on Dec. 7, 2017 at 8:51 PM
I’m taking the steps to get out, i will be the one to have to my move out cause i cannot buy him out.

Quoting Anonymous 15: So you didn't know for yourself if this is overly controlling? You know the answer. Why would you put up with this? What's the pay off?
Anonymous
by Anonymous 15 on Dec. 7, 2017 at 9:30 PM
I'm glad you're taking steps to get away from that. Good luck to you.

Quoting hardworker694: I’m taking the steps to get out, i will be the one to have to my move out cause i cannot buy him out.

Quoting Anonymous 15: So you didn't know for yourself if this is overly controlling? You know the answer. Why would you put up with this? What's the pay off?
Melissa_4
by Bronze Member on Dec. 8, 2017 at 2:47 PM

Why are you still with him?  8 Years of this bullshit, and it's clear he's a controlling asshat.  Sounds like he knows it too.

hardworker694
by Member on Dec. 10, 2017 at 7:33 AM
My 17 year old daughter accused him of having sex with her everytime they went to the cabin, she liked to snowmobile do they eould go weekends, she said it was going on for a year. My family supposely knew weeks before telling me. My family and him never really got along. No charges were filed something might have happrned it did not go to trial cause they did not want to put her on the stand and have found innocent. I got a category 3 on my record for CPS, he was never put on any registry

Quoting Anonymous 1: How did they put him in jail?
hardworker694
by Member on Dec. 10, 2017 at 8:10 AM
I do not hide anything from him, he checks my phone record daily text messages and calls. I should not have to tell him everytime my kids call and what they wanted. He throws a fit when i text any of my friends a lot, which is the only time i talk with them. He hides things, in a relationship and back right before all the legal stuff i found viagra hiding in his drawer never once did he ever mention this or tell me he has an issue until i confronted him while we were going thru the issue with my daughter.

Quoting Anonymous 8: So to get this straight.. he is worried about your daughter and it’s a problem? Him not wanting her to communicate with people that had intentions of put him in prison is not a problem for you!?

What if he is worried about her doing something wrong? Or getting prego? Or having bad influence? Drugs.. etc.

And why would you hide things from him?

Sounds like he better off with someone a bit more honest.
hardworker694
by Member on Dec. 10, 2017 at 8:14 AM
I’m trying to get out we own a house and i do not have the money to buy him out so i need him to buy me out so i can get another place. I did not know any better and put him on the deed. I guess he knew what he was doing when he had me put him on the house, he does not want to lose everything like he did in his past relationship

Quoting Anonymous 4: Put that loser out NOW!
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