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Pull-ups, out the window?

Posted by on Feb. 1, 2018 at 1:24 PM
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At what age were your littles totally done with them?

Bare with me here...

My boyfriend and I have had to put an alarm on his sons bedroom door because he was continually sneaking out of his bedroom and gettting into crap... the fridge, making concoctions of Parmesan cheese and hot sauce, covering the cat in toothpaste, stealing tampons and hiding them under his bed... we found his aunts debit card hidden in his room, and constant food theft. Trust me, I’ve tried to wrap my head around that one, because the kid eats the equivalent of a college football player.

Anyway, he wears a pull-up at night. Kid gets up before six (I’ve got no idea why) and plays quietly in his room until six when our alarm goes off. I’m fed up with the main bathroom garbage can being filled with pull-ups with nine gallons of piss in them.

So last night, we went without a pull-up, when I went in his room this morning, I asked if his bed was dry, bed was dry... so that’s great. Then I asked if he was dry, and he thought about lying to me about it but then told me no, that his pajamas were wet. When I asked him why he didn’t get up and go to the bathroom he said it was because of the alarm. So, what I took from that was that he didn’t want to hear it so he bascailly just stood there and pissed himself.

My boyfriend and I have had SEVERAL conversations about, yes, the alarm will go off, we will hear it... but you can’t just pee yourself because you don’t want to hear that alarm. The alarm is there because of his actions.

Am I losIng my mind completely, am I being too hard about this?

Thanks for your insight y’all! 😘
by on Feb. 1, 2018 at 1:24 PM
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Caitiejo86
by on Feb. 1, 2018 at 1:32 PM
Omg, and as I’m here be hopping around the house I smell pee, so I asked... did you change your underwear after you peed them??

He said NO. SERIOUSLY?! 😭
Anonymous
by Anonymous 1 on Feb. 1, 2018 at 1:51 PM

Is the kid in therapy for his behavior?

We actually never used pull-ups, so I really don't have a suggestion for you.

Caitiejo86
by on Feb. 1, 2018 at 2:06 PM
He’s not. That’s kind of a tricky conversation to have with the boyfriend.

Quoting Anonymous 1:

Is the kid in therapy for his behavior?

We actually never used pull-ups, so I really don't have a suggestion for you.

Caitiejo86
by on Feb. 1, 2018 at 2:07 PM
Though, I STRONGLY think that he should be seeing a behavioral specialist.

Quoting Caitiejo86: He’s not. That’s kind of a tricky conversation to have with the boyfriend.

Quoting Anonymous 1:

Is the kid in therapy for his behavior?

We actually never used pull-ups, so I really don't have a suggestion for you.

cali_gurl
by Bronze Member on Feb. 1, 2018 at 4:42 PM

None of this sounds normal. Is this child special needs? 

cali_gurl
by Bronze Member on Feb. 1, 2018 at 4:44 PM
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Yes I am a teacher and all of that screams special needs.I know it is tricky, but you are not helping by not encouraging early intervention. This kid is too old for all this odd behavior.

Quoting Caitiejo86: Though, I STRONGLY think that he should be seeing a behavioral specialist.
Quoting Caitiejo86: He’s not. That’s kind of a tricky conversation to have with the boyfriend.
Quoting Anonymous 1:

Is the kid in therapy for his behavior?

We actually never used pull-ups, so I really don't have a suggestion for you.


Caitiejo86
by on Feb. 1, 2018 at 5:53 PM
You know, I ALMOST suggested something this morning... but when I got the text “I’m failing as a parent”, I wasn’t sure that was super appropriate.

My arugement is going to be this though, if he’s staying home with me, we have to get to the bottom of it. Regardless of how it makes him feel about his parenting.

Quoting cali_gurl:

Yes I am a teacher and all of that screams special needs.I know it is tricky, but you are not helping by not encouraging early intervention. This kid is too old for all this odd behavior.

Quoting Caitiejo86: Though, I STRONGLY think that he should be seeing a behavioral specialist.

Quoting Caitiejo86: He’s not. That’s kind of a tricky conversation to have with the boyfriend.

Quoting Anonymous 1:

Is the kid in therapy for his behavior?

We actually never used pull-ups, so I really don't have a suggestion for you.

Anonymous
by Anonymous 2 on Feb. 1, 2018 at 7:58 PM

Why you want to stick around your boyfriend is beyond me. 

I suggest you move out and call CPS on this guy so he can have a wake up call his son has major problems.

nanny1918
by Silver Member on Feb. 2, 2018 at 7:37 AM
Can you take away the pull ups, put a toddler potty in his room, a baby monitor in his room (so you can see/hear if he needs you) and lock his door from the outside ?
romalove
by Member on Feb. 2, 2018 at 11:36 AM

Did you say how old he is?

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