My husband and I have differing opinions on how to raise an independent child.
(Mine, obviously, is the right one. So let me tell you about it.)
Although my day is currently revolving around a newborn, and therefore I have no set schedule (and it's only driving me slightly crazy), my husband and my five year old have a pretty defined morning routine. One of my parenting goals is to make this as smooth as possible while providing a chance for even a five year old to participate and be accountable for his own actions.
When he was three or so, he developed his father's love of toaster pastries. My trade-off in this unholy obsession was that, alright, I'll consent on that purchase AS LONG AS THEY ARE UNFROSTED. I have parenting standards, as you can see. (Truth: sometimes, they are frosted. I choose my battles.) At that point, I began putting his breakfast out the night before, in a plastic sandwich bag on a plate. I also made sure the TV was already set to our video streaming service that he uses to watch Curious George. He learned to understand that he had one Curious George in which to eat his breakfast, and then he was to get dressed.
While he was younger, I laid out his clothes the night before as well, explaning why I chose certain things. (Example: "Tomorrow is supposed to be very hot, so I chose shorts for you and a light-colored shirt. Shorts are cooler, and light-colored clothing help you not get hot outside.") After Curious George ended, he knew he was to take his plate and cup to the kitchen and then go get dressed.
As he's gotten older, he chooses his own clothes now, and we've added other chores to his list. (He makes his bed and cleans his room before he leaves.)
Now, where my husband disagrees is that the believes that the child is too slow to do this stuff. He lollygags while picking out clothes or making his bed eats up too much time.
CLEARLY I AM IN THE RIGHT HERE. Who can argue in opposition to the child making his bed?
Legal Disclaimer: My husband is truly an awesome father who tends to balance out my ... obsessive compulsions, so while I may CLEARLY BE IN THE RIGHT HERE, he (many times!) has been in the right when I've been slightly manic about things that are not important in the grand scheme of things. Also, he's hot. And MIGHT be looking over my shoulder. Right.This.Second.
Are your kids independent in their morning routines? Why or why not?