Mom of aspie wonders is this the dirtiest work??

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  • kurkel5
  on Sep. 1, 2008 at 9:52 AM

• I am sorry but I did not deal with that particular problem......hopefully someone or several others have! But I agree it could very well be a sensory problem....

  Did it ever hurt for him to go? I just thought of something tho....if you go back to toddler stage and going #2 is an issue.....they will go and hide and go poop and then sometimes leave it in their diaper all day.....for some I think it can be a fear of loss ....something of themself. It could be a fear of the toilet except he is urinating.....

  I have not heard of this problem before with aspie's so it will be interesting to see and hear others responses.

  Have you tried taking away things that he really likes if he goes on himself? And positive reinforcement if he does go in the bathroom?

  I am sure this is really hard on you ....hang in there and hopefully someone who has been thru it will respond and have some good suggestions!

  Have you put him back in pullups? That also might be something that would get him back to the bathroom....they make them in large sizes.....

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  • aemg
  on Sep. 1, 2008 at 6:36 PM

• My ds 18 also holds it. Hes never been impacted but he plugs up the toilet a lot. I think he also hold his urine. Because he doesn't flush the toilet i know its always goldenrod color. One time i gave him something for his stools and he said he got diarrhea so now he wont take even a stool softener. Also he only poops every 3 or 4 days.

  Elaine
  

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  • Bethann7
  on Sep. 2, 2008 at 11:37 AM

• My ten year-old seems to have a similar problem, but not quite as serious. He only poops about every 3 days and when he does, he often stops up the toilet. He's also had several incidents at school when he has come home with messes in his pants. It only seems to bother him that I have found out, but not that he did it. I've tried explaining to him that classmates around him will notice he smells bad and may tease him, etc., as kids can be cruel. I have also found hidden dirty underwear in his drawers and closet. Each time I find these, I explain to him that he's old enough that this should not be happening and encourage him to make sure to go to the restroom during recess and after lunch. My son also still wears pull-ups to bed at night and also will have occasional accidents during the day, but they don't seem to bother him unless I've noticed. I'm not sure if he's just to distracted to stop playing or whatever he's doing, and use the bathroom. I'm waiting to see if this school year will be better as he's in the fifth grade now. I'm also trying not to be negative to him and hurt his feelings, but it's a challenge. I feel for you and your family.

  Beth

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  • momof973
  on Sep. 2, 2008 at 2:57 PM

• Hi bethann,

  Sounds exzatly the same! Hideing underwear and all that. I give him fiber choice that taste like oranges so he cant hold it in because it can cause rumptured intestines.He has let him be impacted to almost the fever point.. I was just wondering if they grow out of this....

   

  Thanks

  Beth

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  • momof973
  on Sep. 2, 2008 at 2:58 PM

• I am so sorry,

  Although im glad to hear we both are not alone in this:)

  Beth

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  • Bethann7
  on Sep. 2, 2008 at 10:34 PM

• Yes, at least we're not alone. Until I read these posts, I had thought what he was doing was just "him". Now it looks more like it could be an Aspie trait. If the problem doesn't improve in the next couple of months, I'll talk to his doctor. I mostly worried about him getting embarrassed at school. I'll post on his progress and look forward to hearing about yours!

  Take care,

  Beth

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  • craziecat66
  on Nov. 2, 2009 at 3:52 AM

• I realize you posted this over a year ago. I was just wondering if anything has changed since then.  My son will be 16 and still poops in his pants every day. He says he doesn't know why he does it. He hasn't been officially diagnosed but aspergers and sensory intergration disorder has been suggested.  He recently was put on a thyroid pill for hypothyroidism.  The pediatrician was hoping it might help with that but it didn't.  He also will sit in it, until he decides to take a shower.  I feel like I have tried everything.  I throw away a lot of boxers and basketball shorts since those are the only clothes he will wear.  Sometimes his plain dark t-shirts are thrown out also.  My bathroom is destroyed from the walls to the floor.  I hope you had better luck with yours. 

  Cat

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