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How to Raise a Stubborn Child

Posted by on Apr. 16, 2018 at 10:22 PM
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When you have a child that would rather block their ears than listen to you, it's really painful as a parent. How can a child who barely listen to your words obey them?

You show your child all the love you’re capable of but all you get is hurt. And more hurt everyday. Well, since you love your child, you have to solve this stubbornness problem.

I’ll talk about some effective ways you can go about bypassing this stubbornness and getting on the same page with your child.

First of all, don't give in to tantrums. If your child makes a demand before they would take part in simple house chores, it’s simply blackmail. If you meet the demand to get them to do house chores today, you're only fueling the stubborn behaviour you despise.

Holding your ground doesn't mean you have eliminated the problem, it only means you've prevented it from escalating. Now is the time to listen to your child. Don't try to argue to show you're right and don’t get distracted with other things.

According to a survey, 62% of kids believed their parents are too distracted to listen to them with mobile phones being the major source of distraction (28%).Sometimes, your child may be throwing tantrums because you have been paying no attention to them.

You can achieve better communication with your child when you listen to understand, and not to form a better counter reply. Doing so will show your child you care about their opinions.

Whether it’s starting a small business or raising a child you can be proud of, you need to be patient. A friend of mine who runs a Deluxe Limo Party Bus told me he’s had a difficult time getting his child to take orders from him. As a parent, we all want to be in charge. But most times, it’s not always the best approach.

Telling your child what to do can backfire, especially with a stubborn child. They want to be independent and don't want to take orders. However, you can give them an option of picking from choices.

This gives them an illusion of control as they think they're doing what they want. But that's what you want too. You must be careful about the number of choices you give to your children. Two or three is okay as too many choices may get them confused and fail to make a choice at all.Today life   Happy day    Todaynews  tech  

Sometimes, even after giving your child choices to pick from, they may still insist on their demand which is different from the choices you gave them. There’s nothing wrong in negotiating. You get to know what they really want and why they want it.

Negotiation does not mean you’ll accept all their demands but you can reach a compromise. For instance, if your child prefers sitting in front of the TV rather than going to sleep, you can negotiate to determine the bed time that suits both of you.

If you ever decide to punish your child, follow through with it. Offering empty threats will likely lead to more rebellion from your child.

One thing that may lead to more problems is neglecting your child. Ignoring your child means you're shying away from the problem. This could make your child feel unloved and even experience emotional abuse.

About 700,000 children are abused in U.S. annually and three-quarters of them suffer from neglect. You don't want your child to be among them.

by on Apr. 16, 2018 at 10:22 PM
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