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Power of a Praying Wife
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in Christian Moms and Submissive Wives
on Nov. 8, 2009 at 1:13 AM
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several years ago, in the first couple years of our marriage, I did a womens study with this book by Stormie Omartin. It has been a great tool that to this day I reference in my journey through marraige.
So now I have a very specific, personal issue for which to apply the basic principals this book teaches.
The discipline of our girls.
I'm not sure what I have posted here in the past, if anything, on this matter, but it has been an ongoing issue for the pasr couple of years with our 4 yr old. I find myself more and more frustrated and concerned now that we have two little princesses.
My dh is away from home the majority of the time during his 6-8 month fire season. This leaves the child rearing primarily up to me. It shouldn't mean though that dh has no authority when he is home. The problem is that he refuses to discipline. He says that he doesnt want to have to discipline when he's only with us a short time. He wants our dd to enjoy her daddy time. I understand, but what ends up happening is he tells her to do something and she ignores him so he yells and barks in demand. Soon he's just constantly bartking orders that she just drownds out. I begin pulling my hair out. When I step in and diascipline for him, that is wrong. I have talked to him about this and he admits that we have an issue, he just won't do anything about it.
So...I have resolved within myself and committed this to the Lord. From here on out, Every time dh barks unheard orders, i will not open my mouth, roll my eyes, or give either dh or dd a look of warning. Instead I will say a prayer. The first thing is always to pray for the wife. So my prayer is this:
"Dear Lord, Thank you for helping me to hold my tounge out of respect and submission to my husband. Please help me to set a Godly example in my own discipline of our precious gifts from you."
Please pray for me that i will stick with this wholeheartedly.
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- by on Nov. 8, 2009 at 7:02 AM
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Your plan is an acceptable one, but before you implement it, you should sit down with your Bible and write out all the Scripture verses which say that the primary responsibility for child training belongs to the father. Go over those with your husband in a respectful manner, and remind him that God will hold him accountable for the way he trains his children and that it is your responsibility to remind him of that accountability. Once you have done that, unless God specifically gives you something else to say, then you can keep quiet. While I understand why he doesn't want to discipline, God still says it is required of him to do it. This isn't about anything other than raising Godly children who respect their parents and obey their authority, which is later to be transferred to God Himself.
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- by on Nov. 9, 2009 at 7:41 AM
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Also, since you are with the children the majority of the time perhaps you can talk to your husband about what works for you with the girls. At a time when it is just the two of you, you could say, "Dd has been struggling with this behaviour and I found that doing "x" works the best." Then dad will know how to discipline and your child will see that mom and dad are on the same page.
This in no way is telling him what to do, IMO, but giving him some tools and showing you support him. I think fathers sometime struggle with dealing with young children. I know that in my house I can respectfully tell my husband what I think works/doesn't work with our daughter (who's 4 also) and also what I think is at the root of the problem. If he chooses to discipline differently that is his decision as father and head of household and I try to hold my tongue if I don't agree w/ it.
--Liberty
Mom to Allie and G-man.
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