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Worth going back??

Posted by on Dec. 7, 2012 at 1:48 PM
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Hello,

This is my first post on here and I am needing some advice. I am 28 years old, a wife, and mommy to a beautiful 3 month old little girl. I already have a BA in Communication studies and Childrens studies, little did i realize that these two degrees are pretty much worthless in less i would like to make a little more than min wage my entire life. That is not what I had in mind for me and my life. So I have been thinking about going back to nursing school. I currently work in a hospital processing OR instruments after they come out of surgery, not my dream job but I have learned that I like being in a hospital setting and wouldnt mind staying there. 

I am most frustrated becuase i have already done 5 years of school and figured I would have had a good paying job from that, and now knowing I would have to go back and put in another three years is really frustrating. Anyway, I work 3 nights a week (4pm-1230am) and have a three month old, I am worried about not having enough time for her and it makes me sad. Anyone else going through this? or have gone through it and it was completely worth it on the other side?


Thank you!!!


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musicpisces
by on Dec. 7, 2012 at 6:14 PM

Welcome!

I'm a BSN student right now (just survived my first semester of a consolidated 2 year program), and it's REALLY hard.  I have a 4 year old, and I don't work, and I can barely stay on top of all of the reading, let alone get in time with my husband.  That said, there are a few people in my class who are working (a couple of them are parents), and it CAN be done, but it takes a lot of motivation.  Is this something you're passionate about?  I don't blame you for being frustrated, but is there anything you love that you can make a good living at?

There are also other positions within the hospital that wouldn't require a 3 year program, like respiratory therapy or phlebotomy.

One thing for me that's key is a very supportive spouse who understands that you WILL NOT be home for 3 years, basically.  When I'm not in class or at clinicals, I'm studying at Starbucks, because I CANNOT study at home without being bugged or distracted with stuff that needs to get done (my house is trashed thanks to school).

I don't mean to sound discouraging.  People get into nursing for a lot of reasons.  For me, this is a passion, so it's worth it.  I don't know that this level of stress would be worth it for something I don't feel this passionately about.

Good luck!!

Suzanne

"Don't sacrifice what you want most for what you want right now."

kwright83
by on Dec. 7, 2012 at 6:49 PM

I believe that it is something that I would enjoy in certain settings..( L&D, Mother Baby, ICU, ER , or a childrens hospital) I enjoy taking care of people and making them happy. I tried that in the Social Work field and just did not enjoy it... I want to get in a career where I can take care of people, work a few days a week, make decent money and be able to be at home with my kiddos and take them to school things that a typical 9-5 wouldnt allow and nursing seems to fit that.

But am EXTREMELY nervous about getting into school with a 3 month old and us wanting more kids within the next 3 years which would put me right in the nursing program depending on the waitlist.  However, I CANT do what I am doing now and its more motivation to do something else.

What is it about nursing that you are passionate about?

BipolarMom09
by New Member on Dec. 7, 2012 at 6:58 PM

I am going through a similar situation as you! I have two boys, Aiden will be 4 in March and Avery just turned 2, I am also expecting our third child in May! I plan to start the nursing program here in August but have a deadline of ACT test and other paperwork by Jan.15th. By the time classes start, my newest baby will be 3 months old. I am also a Mom who breastfeeds so I will have that on my plate as well! I am super nervous about taking on the work load of school, three kids, a husband, three pets, housework, etc. I will only have to do 18-20 months because I have some credits that will already transfer into the program from my previous year of college, so that is nice. I am only doing the 2 year Associate's RN and then going to work. After starting up a career, I will go back to get my Bachelor's while working and then after that I hope to get my Master's and become a NP. We shall see! :)

musicpisces
by on Dec. 8, 2012 at 12:02 AM

Have you thought about getting a certification that you can do fairly quickly, like a CNA or phlebotomy, so that you can get some time with patient care, and see what you think?  There's definitely a lot you can do with nursing.  I've seen some people go into it, then find they really don't like it, then others that of course love it.  I've done a lot of patient care (I was a corpsman in the Navy, a phlebotomist, and a lactation specialist before this), so I have had a lot of opportunities to explore my options, and my plan is to become a certified nurse midwife and women's health nurse practitioner.  I absolutely LOVE patient care, but my heart lies in mother/baby for sure.  I really enjoy women's health, and the processes of pregnancy and birth astound me.  I'm learning so much working with patients as a student nurse, and applying my theory along with it, and it's just awesome.  Every day just reinforces that I'm doing exactly what I should be doing.

It's definitely hard as a parent, especially with little ones that are still so dependent on their parents.  We have a couple of dads with infants (no moms with infants) in our class, and the two are really struggling to stay on top of things (they work as well).  They're going to be great nurses one day, though.  One of them started the program when his youngest was just 5 weeks old.

I would encourage you to find a way to maybe shadow a nurse or volunteer or do something where you can really see what it's like to work in the trenches.  I'd hate to see you get a third bachelors degree and then end up doing something you dislike!  =)  It's very hard work, the politics SUCK, nursing is always seeing budget cuts, and many places are constantly trying to suppress nurse autonomy.  On the flip side, working with patients is awesome, you do get more autonomy than our predecessors did, you do a lot more critical thinking as a BSN (as opposed to an ADN), and there are a variety of fields to get into.  Also look now at the hiring trends in your area.  Here, there were a lot of hiring freezes, and many hospitals aren't taking new grads.  We plan to move for a job when I finish, and I'm applying to several hospitals.  When the economy tanked 5 years ago, nurses couldn't afford to retire, and there were lay-offs.  Many of those nurses are still trying to recover, and they're being switched to per-diem or less than full time, so they no longer qualify for health benefits or retirement benefits.  It's a sketchy time, sadly, unless you find the right position. 

Look at the pre-requisites for the programs in your area.  I know this varies by state- here in CA, there are a TON, and you have to have a very high GPA (at least a 3.8) to be accepted into any BSN program.  I got very lucky getting into mine when I did, because there's also a time limit on some of the classes, and my chemistry is only good through this year, so if I hadn't been accepted, I would've had to repeat it somehow.

We weren't planning on our kids being 6 years apart, but life happened, so we have to wait until after this program to have another baby.  We plan to wait until I have a job and I've passed any probationary periods just to be sure, since the market is so bad right now.  Once I have a couple of years under my belt, and that baby is weaned, I'll be applying for my master's program.

What didn't you like about social work?  Did you do it in the hospital setting?  Just curious.

Quoting kwright83:

I believe that it is something that I would enjoy in certain settings..( L&D, Mother Baby, ICU, ER , or a childrens hospital) I enjoy taking care of people and making them happy. I tried that in the Social Work field and just did not enjoy it... I want to get in a career where I can take care of people, work a few days a week, make decent money and be able to be at home with my kiddos and take them to school things that a typical 9-5 wouldnt allow and nursing seems to fit that.

But am EXTREMELY nervous about getting into school with a 3 month old and us wanting more kids within the next 3 years which would put me right in the nursing program depending on the waitlist.  However, I CANT do what I am doing now and its more motivation to do something else.

What is it about nursing that you are passionate about?


Suzanne

"Don't sacrifice what you want most for what you want right now."

kwright83
by on Dec. 8, 2012 at 1:04 AM

Thank you for ALL that advice!!!! I REALLY appericate it, its always good to talk to someone walking in the same path =) I have looked into those other professions that you mentioned but there are not many jobs at all where I live for those things (Spokane, WA) and we are not looking to move as both of our families are here. The hospital that I work in has 3 pages of job listings just for nursing its in HIGH demand, and I am already in the hospital so I have a hiring advantage of already being an in house employee. 

I did social work with a crisis nursery, and worked with families. I just got really frustrated with people that were taking advantage of the system and didnt care to take care of thier kids and just the whole process of our social system. I understand some of that I will come in contact wtih in the hospital setting, with mean patients, and people that will take advantage of me as a nurse but I really enjoy being in the hospital. After having my baby a few months ago and having AMAZING nurses myself I would LOVE to be a L&D Nurse or Mother baby =)

musicpisces
by on Dec. 8, 2012 at 2:31 AM

You sound like you have a good sense of the culture there, and the demand is high, which is good.  Will you be able to go straight into a program in the fall, or would you have to complete other courses first?  How does your husband feel about you doing this?

There will definitely be patients that make you crazy, that abuse the system, that will never pay, that will try to get you to do things you know they are capable of taking care of for themselves, but for every one of those, 10 others make it worth it.  Most people are wonderful in their own way, and each of them teach you something different. 

We're actually looking at Oregon and Washington, mostly Washington, for our big move.  Probably somewhere near Seattle.  The trail runner in me can't wait!  LOL  But it's good to hear there are nursing positions up there.  I know Univerity of Washington has a very reputable nursing program.  The one I'm in here is only one of two in CA that I know of that does a BSN in 2 years, and this is only the second year they've done it.  It's SO crazy intense.  There is almost literally no way physically possible to stay on top of the reading.  There is also a lot of writing, and getting familiar with ATI tests.

Rally your support now, and figure out all the things that will make life easier for everyone while you're in the program if you decide to go that route.  You sound like you're pretty set on it, so set yourself up for success!

Suzanne

"Don't sacrifice what you want most for what you want right now."

kwright83
by on Dec. 8, 2012 at 11:25 AM

I am working on my Pre- Reqs now, taking only two calsses at a time so that I can enjoy some time with my family before it gets crazy!! I will apply in the fall and its about a year and a half to a two year wait, I am just going to the community college with an accreitted nursing program. I thought about Washington state (Yes, they have a GREAT program) but its A LOT harder to get into and they have A LOT more pre- reqs not to mention the tuition it A LOT more... LOL With the community college its NOT a BSN just an RN but I am just looking to get into somthing NOW, and can go back to get my BSN later. A lot of places here will pay for you to go back and get it later too which would be nice.

My husband and family AND other family are super supportative, my hubby even took on a second job so that I could go part time at my job so that  I could go back... He wants me to be happy and i think he see's also the fininical benefit to me being a nurse. Here it starts at 27 an hour out of school! So it will better our familiy and I will be able to work a few days a week and be home with the kiddos. 

You hang in there too! I keep reading how intense the nursing program is but I also think about all the positive things that would come out of it and it keeps me motovated

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