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im not sure i could do a natural birth. help??

Posted by on Oct. 21, 2010 at 2:59 PM
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We are not planning another baby for awhile but i needed some advice.

its been a family trend that our water always breaks first. i know its not common but all 3 of my moms water broke first and my granma all 4 births water broke first, same with my great grandma's 5 births. my water broke first at 4am and i was in labor for 14 hours and pushed for 3 hours. would it be safe for me to do a natural birth? i would love to do a natural birth! i had an epidural with my DD and it didnt work to its full ability, i believe, it never relieved the pain on both sides it was either one side or the other and i felt everything in the end, and i believe it caused some problems for my DD right after she was born she had a fever and they thought she had an infection as well.

so would it be safe for me to do a natural birth since my water will break first? and any advice you have would be so great as well! Thanks ladies!

girl giving flower Proud mom of Caroline! Born Feb 14 2010!

by on Oct. 21, 2010 at 2:59 PM
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Roadfamily6now
by on Oct. 21, 2010 at 5:47 PM

Yes, it will be safe for you to have a natural childbirth.

I'd tell you, as a Doula, that you might want to try laboring in water to help with the contractions.

Stay home as long as possible as well. 

Good Luck  

Caroline2010
by on Oct. 21, 2010 at 8:53 PM

yeah i wanted to stay hm the first time and walk and such but my hubby said no way and rushed me there! since the doc said we had to go asap if my water broke he didnt believe me when i said we have a lot of time its ok! silly men! i didnt even get a chance to eat something i was STARVING!!!! I have seen water births and would love to try it! and i think we will do a birthing center i HATE hospitals!

Pandapanda
by on Oct. 22, 2010 at 4:20 PM
I labored in the water when it was my time. It was fantastic. I highly reccommend it.

Just because your water breaks doesn't mean you or baby are in danger (since you would hopefully be full term). What does your husband think will happen if you stay home? What about your doctor? What is your husband afraid of?

Find out- talk to him, and then do research so you can help calm him and get him on your side.
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Caroline2010
by on Oct. 23, 2010 at 12:11 PM

well it was our first baby so he wanted to do everything by the book so the doc said when ur water breaks go straight to the hospital so thats wat he made  me do. this time he is more open to letting me labor at hm. he just doesnt want to see me in pain. and he is afraid of the baby getting hurt. im wanting to buy some books to read and we will take some classes this time to help prepare us for it. im changing doc since my insurance changed again. but we r not pregnant yet maybe in a few years so we still have time to do all our research and decided wats best for us. i really want to do this and my hubby supports me but is not 100% yet, my family thinks im crazy but thats ok! lol

doulala
by Gold Member on Oct. 23, 2010 at 12:49 PM

Water breaking isn't necessarily relevant to meds/natural.

If you and baby are safe & healthy then you may do as you wish.

I encourage you to learn more about ROM (rupture of membranes) so you can better understand what your options are.

And to hire a normal birth specialist (midwife) rather than a surgeon (OB) to attend your delivery for a better outcome.

 

 

:-)


 


Baby3inJanuary
by on Oct. 23, 2010 at 5:34 PM

If you could actually give birth vaginally, successfully, under the circumstances of having an epi (that didn't even work properly) and all the other stuff that is done in hospitals that makes vaginal delivery at all, much less unmedicated, so much less likely in the first place, then you can DEFINITELY do the same, under the much easier circumstances of natural labor and birth.

The trick is, it's nearly impossible to have a natural birth in a hospital, because any messing with your labor (such as induction or "augmentation") makes the pain far worse, and can put the baby in distress. Even if the baby tolerates the Pitocin ok, it makes the pain of labor so much worse than natural labor, that most women cannot bear up under it and get an epidural. The epidural carries its own set of emergencies that it can cause, such as sudden drops in your blood pressure, a slowdown or stall in labor, and can also put the baby in distress.

Being placed on your back, even semi-sitting up, is a terrible position to try to deliver in, yet it is still one they usually insist on in hospitals, and just being in that position can make an otherwise normal, easy labor into a difficult one that then "needs" interventions... that lead to other interventions and even more problems... and before you know it, you are being told you were never up to birth in the first place, that your body just wasn't built for it, when what wasn't up to it, was hospital policies.

Being denied food and/or water in labor and being unable to move around are two serious roadblocks to successful normal birth, that many hospitals still inflict on women despite all the studies in the world showing how many problems it causes, and that there is no need for it.

So yes, you can definitely have this baby just fine... IF you can find a way to keep people who are trained to do so, from interfering in your labor and screwing things up for you, and then creating a situation where you can't, and then telling you it's because of you, not them.

Many women walk away from that convinced of their own inability to birth, never once suspecting that if left to do its job, their bodies would be just as competent at birthing as they are at digesting, respiring, and other automatic functions, and that if someone interfered with their bowel movements to the degree that labor and birth are interfered with, they'd probably have trouble with that, too.

 My advice to anyone who wants the kinder, gentler, natural labor and birth, is: hire a homebirth midwife, because "natural" labor and birth in a hospital these days is as rare as finding hens' teeth. I'm a cynic, I guess, but I have had it both ways, and can tell you that pushing out a 10 lb son at home, all natural, with a respectful midwife, was easier and less painful, than only making it to 4 cm on Pitocin before "needing" a cesarean, had been, the time before.

So much so, I'm delighted to be doing it again (all natural, homebirth) with this baby too, in January! the only thing I was sure of, was that I could NOT do an induction again. The natural labor was a cake walk by comparison.


-Meg, homeschooling, homesteading, and homebirthing after cesarean, loving life as an Over-35 SAHM and Postal Wife.

DD born 2004 8 lb c/sec; DS born 2007 10 lb HBAC, happily planning another homebirth in the second half of January, 2011!

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Caroline2010
by on Oct. 23, 2010 at 6:18 PM

yeah thats wat i hated about the hospital, they insisted on poticin since my water broke and it was 5 am all i wanted to do was sleep. i got the eid at 5cm i just couldnt do it any more and it took forever to get t10cm. after not having food since 7pm the night before i had gone more than 12 hours with out food and pushimg for 3 1/2 hours i was exausted!!! it i had eaten something it would of made a huge difference! well im excited now i cant wait to b pregnant again! thanks ladies!

SWDoula
by on Oct. 26, 2010 at 9:17 AM

you could also get a doula, sometimes having one helps the husband feel better and more confident and she can give you both a bunch of good information on how to be sucessful in having a natural birth.  Also work with a midwife, they are so much more laid back then doctors.  One of my clients had her water break first and the midwife let her try for 12hrs to get labor to start naturally.

krayzbabylove
by on Oct. 26, 2010 at 10:59 PM

Natural birth is safer for everyone involved, water broken or not.

truealaskanmom
by on Oct. 27, 2010 at 5:33 AM

Yes natural is the way to go, and really your labor was quite short for a first labor, my VBAC was 22 hours from first contraction to birth.  My water broke 7 hours before I gave birth.  I labored in water and it did help with the pain.  I suggest a homebirth or birthcenter birth and get a doula they are awesome to have. 

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