Birthing with a midwife, hubby is totally unsupportive =(
Backstory- I was induced with Lydia, had an epidural, her heart rate dropped along with my blood pressure...things got scary. I DO NOT want another experience like that, and those complications can be directly linked to the pitocin and epidural.
I've chosen to use a midwife practice, and to appease my husband, found a wonderful group who work under Midwest Womens Healthcare on the campus of a hospital. This, unfortunately, is not enough for my husband, and he says I'm being hormonal and irrational.
I made this decision after my last OB appointment (that consisted of little more than "How are your feeling? You need to get a flu shot."). They then proceeded to schedule my next 7 appointments in the span of about 3 minutes, telling me I had to take what they had available, that Dr. Woolen was "very busy". That was it, I knew this practice was absolutely not for me.
He agreed to watch "The Business of Being Born" with me last night, and compared it to a typical Michael Moore film, stating that it was totally one sided.
I dont know how else to get through to him, or if I should even try to. He's a great dad to our daughter and has been very involved with this pregnancy, but I feel like my opinion of my care provider should definitely carry more weight than his.
He wants me to talk to his Aunt, the head nurse of L&D at a hospital about 15 minutes from us, but I know that her opinion isn't going to change my mind about using a midwife, and having a no intervention birth.
I know how I am when I'm in pain, and if I'm in a hospital and have nurses and OB's breathing down my neck, I'll cave to things I know I dont need.
I can't imagine a compromise better than a midwife who works on the campus of a hospital. It's like my husband absolutely refuses to accept that these people are trained to do what they do.