Shes young..pregnant...And surrounded my bad people...UPDATED-AGAIN!
Lol..Thats the best interesting title I could come up with.
My step daughter is 18 and found out she is pregnant last night...She lives with her mother(whom forced her to have an abortion when she was 15)...Her mother and that side of her family is major "hospital/doctor/ norm"...
Then there is me..Natural birthing cloth diapering momma...She is willing to learn and see her options. I want to show her all of her options. I want to show her statistics and information on Pitocin/Epi's/Cesareans/tearing/episiotomy/midwives/ETC...
We are in Maryland(Baltimore area) if anyone is around here...
I dont know where to find all this information..Does anyone have any good websites/videos?
So after her mom found out she turned off her cell phone and wouldnt allow her to leave the house(in cali). She wouldnt allow her to call anyone, including her father. She was texting me and her boyfriend the night her and her mom were fighting. She was telling me how she wanted to rent the house next door to us and work at the daycare that my mother and I are opening so that she could stay with her baby. She was telling her boyfriend that they were going to get married, they picked out a crib, they picked names. She was happy.After these texts that night her phone was shut off.
My husband called her 20 times and left maybe 8 messages she wouldnt reply. He called her mothers parents and they wouldnt answer. Even her Mothers sister...Same...Well her boyfriend contacts me through facebook. And he comes over last night to meet my husband and I. He is a great guy. He comes from a strong, loving supportive family, She and he had all the support they would ever need. We were just worried about what was happening to her since we couldnt get ahole of her.
Her mother accidentally pocket dialed my husband when they were landing back here in MD from cali...last night at 11pm... while my step daugters boyfriend was still here. So we knew they were back. They were at the airport that is 3 minutes(literally) from our house. My step daughter could have walked away from her mother and called up from a payohone, she could have borrowed a cell or even talked to the many police there at the airport. ANYTHING! But she chose not too. We continued to call her mother and she wouldnt answer. Nor would she this morning.
Her mother finally calls my husband this morning and she tell him that "she started bleeding this morning and she went to the ob"..All alone...pregnant..bleeding...no cell phne..BULLSHIT!
He calls back 4 hours later(my step daughter was suppose to call us) and her mother simply says "She terminated her pregnancy".
I am so beyond angry right now. I cant even tell you. I am shaking. I am furious. I cant believe she killed another one of her babies. I dont think she EVER deserves the chance to have the joy of being a mother now. I know she was influenced by her mother. BUT the fact is she is 19(will be in 5 days) and she chose to do this. I think it is even worse because she was making plans with the father to marry him and they picked names etc etc. I even bought her baby clothes and ordered her cloth diapers.
She still hasnt talked to her father. Her mother just keeps saying she is "unavailable".
Ahh, Well. .She did not choose to have an abortion. She did have a miscarriage. Her mother was calling people telling them that she CHOSE to have a surgical abortion because she did not want her baby! She is a sick person.
However, My opinions stated above would still stand true if she HAD CHOSEN to have an abortion. Sorry if that bothers some people. But that is my opinion. I am 23 years old. Only 4 1/2 years older than her. I had my first child when I was 17. I KNOW how hard teen pregnancy is, I KNOW how it feels to have people disapprove. She is not a 15 year old child anymore. She is a strong young woman. I was very proud of her and her choices that she was making. Her and I are very close and I was so excited for her! But when her mother told us that she chose to kill her baby I was livid. And yes, I do believe that if she chose to do that as a consenting adult then in MY OPINION she did not deserve to be a mother.
I am happy to say that she did not choose this. She had a miscarriage unfortunately. She is sad and hurting. I am here for her. She is doing better.
The sad thing is she is still choosing to live with her mother even after her mother doing this again...