I was all exited for my midwife appointment yesterday and then about an hour before I got a call from my sister. She had a very unpleasant birth experience 2 years ago that resulted in a C-section and now if I sound the slightest bit exited about my upcoming event she just can’t seem to stop herself from being negative. When I first told her we were planning a hotel birth her comment was “what about all the screaming?” She also does not really understand what a MW is and she can’t seem to understand that hypno-birthing is a childbirth preparation technique.
She still continues to make skeptical comments which I usually just blow off but yesterday was by far the worst. When I told her how exited we were about our 2 day getaway plan (the hotel birth) and that I had a MW appointment coming up she said – "Oh do you mean your hypnotist? You know maybe a midwife could have helped me avoid going to the hospital too early but I am really lucky because if I were one of those women years ago I probably would have died".
Honestly I don’t even think she considered what she was saying to me and how it might make me feel - I am due in 3 weeks.
It put me in such a bad funk and I am just now starting to be able to shake it off. I need a good plan to deal with her negativity without starting a fight or worrying about changing her mind. I just need a way I can make sure I don’t let it get to me or that I can somehow let her know nicely that I don’t need to hear stuff like that.