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link fixed: overcontrolling parents

Posted by on Feb. 12, 2012 at 8:23 PM
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Here is an interesting article from science daily about what over controlling our kids creates. http://www.sciencedaily.com/releases/2012/02/120210105901.htm
Would love to here opinions and more importantly how our natural parenting fits this study.

Controlling Parents More Likely to Have Delinquent Children

ScienceDaily (Feb. 10, 2012) —Authoritarian parents whose child-rearing style can be summed up as "it's my way or the highway" are more likely to raise disrespectful, delinquent children who do not see them as legitimate authority figures than authoritative parents who listen to their children and gain their respect and trust, according to new research from the University of New Hampshire.....(there is a part missing here that I couldn't get to copy right)


This is the first study

about the legitimacy of parent authority and if those perceptions affect delinquent behavior. The results are presented in the February issue of the Journal of Adolescence in the article "Don't trust anyone over 30: Parental legitimacy as a mediator between parenting style and changes in delinquent behavior over time." The research was conducted by UNH researchers Trinkner; Ellen Cohn, professor of psychology; Cesar Rebellon, associate professor of sociology; and Karen Van Gundy, associate professor of sociology. The researchers relied on data from the New Hampshire Youth Study, an ongoing, longitudinal survey of middle school and high school students examining the psychological, sociological, developmental, and legal factors that influence adolescent delinquency. Analyses reported are based on data collected over an 18-month period beginning in the fall of 2007. "While it is generally agreed that authoritative parenting is more effective than authoritarian and permissive styles, little is known about why some parenting styles are more efficient than others. Our results showed that parental legitimacy was an important mechanism by which parenting styles affected adolescent behavior," Trinkner said. The researchers evaluated three parenting styles: authoritative, authoritarian, and permissive. Authoritative parents are both demanding and controlling, but they are also warm and receptive to their children's needs. They are receptive to bidirectional communication in that they explain to their children why they have established rules and also listen to their children's opinions about those rules. Children of authoritative parents tend to be self-reliant, self-controlled, and content. On the other hand, authoritarian parents are demanding and highly controlling, but detached and unreceptive to their children's needs. These parents support unilateral communication where they establish rules without explanation and expect them to be obeyed without complaint or question. Authoritarian parenting produces children who are discontent, withdrawn, and distrustful. Finally, in contrast to authoritarian parenting, permissive parents are nondemanding and noncontrolling. They tend to be warm and receptive to their children's needs, but place few boundaries on their children. If they do establish rules, they rarely enforce them to any great extent. These parents tend to produce children who are the least self-reliant, explorative, and self-controlled out of all the parenting styles. "The style that parents used to rear their children had a direct influence on whether those children perceived their parents as legitimate authority figures. Adolescents who perceived parents as legitimate were then less likely to engage in delinquent behavior. Thus, authoritative parenting may be more effective than the other styles because this style makes adolescents more willing to accept their parents' attempts to socialize them and subsequently follow their rules," Trinkner said. "Conversely, authoritarian parents have the opposite effect in that they actually reduce the likelihood of their children perceiving their authority as legitimate. Adolescents from authoritarian parents are more likely to resist their parents' attempts at socialization," he said. While the children of permissive parents were less likely to respect their parents as authority figures, the researchers found they were no more or no less likely to engage in delinquent behavior. According to the researchers, the results show that fostering and creating parental legitimacy is one technique for parents to exert control over their children. Additionally, parents are more likely to be viewed as legitimate authorities if they utilize authoritative parenting practices rather than authoritarian or permissive practices, which tend to undermine parental authority. "Our data offer further evidence that authoritative parenting is an effective way for parents to successfully socialize
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peaches_04
by on Feb. 12, 2012 at 9:41 PM
Can anyone make it sticky?
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jconney80
by Jill - Admin on Feb. 12, 2012 at 9:57 PM


Quoting peaches_04:

Can anyone make it sticky?
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JazzysWifey
by on Feb. 13, 2012 at 12:39 AM
the link/URL doesn't work... i was gonna make it sticky but it goes to a 'page not found'
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NaturalMamaCZ
by on Feb. 13, 2012 at 1:37 PM
I will repost link and make it sticky :+)
NaturalMamaCZ
by on Feb. 13, 2012 at 1:54 PM
Okay, no sticky but I fixed the link so can someone make it sticky? I copied and posted bit an important section on reward and punishment didn't copy.
NaturalMamaCZ
by on Feb. 13, 2012 at 2:00 PM
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My.husbands dad had a rule that he would answer any and all questions he asked and would never say " because he said so". It was a good rule with positive effects for my husband growing up. We will appts do this with our kids too. Very different than my Dad!
sreichelt26
by on Feb. 13, 2012 at 5:58 PM

http://www.sciencedaily.com/releases/2012/02/120210105901.htm

thundersky
by on Feb. 13, 2012 at 7:33 PM
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i always say kids and people are like a wet bar of soap. you squeeze it to hard to keep it from getting away it shoots from your hand and goes everywere. if you hold it gentely it stays were you want and need it to. so treat kids like a wet bar of soap.

deux_fleurs
by on Feb. 13, 2012 at 9:38 PM

That is a GREAT analogy and pretty much sums up my parenting style. Free Range Parenting  is a great book and was really liberating to read.

Quoting thundersky:

i always say kids and people are like a wet bar of soap. you squeeze it to hard to keep it from getting away it shoots from your hand and goes everywere. if you hold it gentely it stays were you want and need it to. so treat kids like a wet bar of soap.


tabi_cat1023
by Tabi - Admin on Feb. 14, 2012 at 8:40 AM

I love this analogy!

Quoting deux_fleurs:

That is a GREAT analogy and pretty much sums up my parenting style. Free Range Parenting  is a great book and was really liberating to read.

Quoting thundersky:

i always say kids and people are like a wet bar of soap. you squeeze it to hard to keep it from getting away it shoots from your hand and goes everywere. if you hold it gentely it stays were you want and need it to. so treat kids like a wet bar of soap.



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