AP isn't going well :(

[mich.el.le]

 Ds is 7 months and is SO clingy.  I literally can't walk from the couch to the sink, 15 feet away and within his sight, without major waterworks.  He doesn't like the sling or wrap so getting anything done is impossible.  He won't go to sleep unless I rock him.  If dh tries he does nothing but cry and follow me with his eyes.  If I leave the room he watches the hallway for me to come back.  Help?!  I can't even pee. lol

[Mrs.Salz]

That sounds frustrating :( This was about the age where I decided DS was old enough to understand that I was coming back. So I would tell him I was going to the bathroom and would be back (or whatever), and then obviously come back right away.

What kind of sling or wrap do you have? Is it possible he'd be more comfortable in a carrier like an ergo or boba?

It gets easier once they are more mobile and can play by themselves a little.

[mich.el.le]

 

Quoting Mrs.Salz:

That sounds frustrating :( This was about the age where I decided DS was old enough to understand that I was coming back. So I would tell him I was going to the bathroom and would be back (or whatever), and then obviously come back right away.

What kind of sling or wrap do you have? Is it possible he'd be more comfortable in a carrier like an ergo or boba?

It gets easier once they are more mobile and can play by themselves a little.

 I have a hotslings sling and a moby-like wrap.  He HATES being restricted. He pushes off of me every time I put him in either carrier.  I'm hesitant to buy another carrier, especially an expensive one, if he's going to hate it.

Eta: I have a wahm gauze wrap too but I can't figure it out. :/  I'm either too fat or not using it right because I don't have enough material left to tie it after I've wrapped it.

[mich.el.le]

 I can't even put him down right next to me half the time.  He wants to be on me 24/7.

[JazzysWifey]

I can totally relate. My son is the same way. He's been crawling for a couple months and that's helping because he's controlling where he's at ya know? Is your son crawling yet?

I spend a lot of time on the floor, playing with him and slowly inching away so that there's more and more space between us. It's still a process but it's nice that it's getting better!

Good luck!

[mich.el.le]

 

Quoting JazzysWifey:

I can totally relate. My son is the same way. He's been crawling for a couple months and that's helping because he's controlling where he's at ya know? Is your son crawling yet?

I spend a lot of time on the floor, playing with him and slowly inching away so that there's more and more space between us. It's still a process but it's nice that it's getting better!

Good luck!

 He's scooting backward and taking a few crawl-steps at a time forward but he isn't efficient yet. 

I tell people ap fosters independance but so far it has fostered the opposite. lol

[JazzysWifey]

I bet once he's more mobile it'll get better. My son is only 8 months and I'd say only the past 6 weeks or so have been much better

[Naegore]

As Mrs.Salz said, it is a good time for him to learn you are coming back. Mt son was the same way and what helped him was that when I sat him down and left the room ti use the bathroom, I kept talking to him, and I would cone right back. When I needed to do a chore, I set him where he could see me and talked to him as I did my chore. It was hard at first, he would cry and wail. After just a few minutes I would go cuddle him and calm him down, then go back to my chore. It took time, a couple weeks really and sometimes hours on a chore, but he eventually chilled and realized I was still there. I hope this helps.

[jellyphish]

He's only seven months, he is not going to be independent yet. It WILL get better.
The book No Cry Sleep Solution reall helped me to find peace of mind when I was feeling like this. I know it's not necessarily sleep issues you're having, but I think it might help.

Quoting mich.el.le:

 

Quoting JazzysWifey:

I can totally relate. My son is the same way. He's been crawling for a couple months and that's helping because he's controlling where he's at ya know? Is your son crawling yet?

I spend a lot of time on the floor, playing with him and slowly inching away so that there's more and more space between us. It's still a process but it's nice that it's getting better!

Good luck!

 He's scooting backward and taking a few crawl-steps at a time forward but he isn't efficient yet. 

I tell people ap fosters independance but so far it has fostered the opposite. lol

[mich.el.le]

 

Quoting Naegore:

As Mrs.Salz said, it is a good time for him to learn you are coming back. Mt son was the same way and what helped him was that when I sat him down and left the room ti use the bathroom, I kept talking to him, and I would cone right back. When I needed to do a chore, I set him where he could see me and talked to him as I did my chore. It was hard at first, he would cry and wail. After just a few minutes I would go cuddle him and calm him down, then go back to my chore. It took time, a couple weeks really and sometimes hours on a chore, but he eventually chilled and realized I was still there. I hope this helps.

 So it's ok to let him cry like this?  I guess that's my biggest question.  AP is so anti-CIO that I'm afraid to let him cry so I can pee or do dishes. lol

[mich.el.le]

 

Quoting jellyphish:

He's only seven months, he is not going to be independent yet. It WILL get better.
The book No Cry Sleep Solution reall helped me to find peace of mind when I was feeling like this. I know it's not necessarily sleep issues you're having, but I think it might help.

Quoting mich.el.le:

 

Quoting JazzysWifey:

I can totally relate. My son is the same way. He's been crawling for a couple months and that's helping because he's controlling where he's at ya know? Is your son crawling yet?

I spend a lot of time on the floor, playing with him and slowly inching away so that there's more and more space between us. It's still a process but it's nice that it's getting better!

Good luck!

 He's scooting backward and taking a few crawl-steps at a time forward but he isn't efficient yet. 

I tell people ap fosters independance but so far it has fostered the opposite. lol

 I've read it. :)  I might have to ask my friend if I can have it back to read it again (I read it 3 years ago with ds1).